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Sevilla


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I'm getting married on August 11 and have been struggling with something for quite a while now.  My dad passed away when I was 19 (4 years ago), and I want to do something to make him a part of the service.  He was my best friend, and I really need to do something to make sure he can be a part of the day, even if it is just in spirit.  I've racked my brain for things to do, but none of them seem to feel right... most people suggest putting a candle on the alter, but I don't know, that doesn't really seem to capture the importance that he holds in my life.  Most things just seem so insignificant and don't do justice to how much I love him... but then again, I suppose anything will feel like that..


If anyone could give me any ideas for something I could do to honor him, I'd be really appreciative.  Thanks girls.



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lindsayp


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Did he have a favorite drink, food, song, poem? I'm sure you could easily work one of those in. You could do a poem or song during the ceremony, or do his favorite drink as a signature drink at the reception, serve his favorite food at the reception or as a favor if it's something packageable, or even play his favorite song. I'm not really sure, i haven't gotten married, but these are the things I think of...

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Elle


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I think it depends on how outward you want the gesture(s) to be. 


You could walk alone down the aisle and place a bunch of flowers on your Dads seat before you go up to the altar, or carry a candle down the aisle with you and place it at the altar.  You could include a bit in the ceremony (a moment of silence, a poem, etc) for those that cannot be with you.  You could wear a locket with his picture inside on the day of.  If he had a favorite song or singer you could walk down the aisle to that or play it at the reception, depending on who is providing your music.


If you're doing programs to hand out to your guests, you can add a bit in there about the gestures, too.  Or if you want to keep it more private than that you can always do whatever you want and know that you know you're honoring your Dad without outwardly explaining to everyone exactly how you're doing it.



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Sevilla


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lindsayp- I never thought about doing something like his favorite drink or food at the reception.  That seems like it'd be really nice.


Elle- I'm going to walk down the aisle by myself, and I didn't think that that in itself is probably the biggest way to honor him.  Thank you for reminding me of that Let's just hope I don't break down into tears on the way!



-- Edited by Sevilla at 14:04, 2007-01-09

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