I'm bartending at an after funeral reception in two weeks and I was wondering what to wear? I need to be comfortable, look nice and respectable, but I don't want to wear a dress... any ideas? I can buy something(s), I really don't have anything I think would be appropriate, but the budget would have to be forever21-like. Thanks!
Hmmm. What's the weather like where you are? I think navy/chocolate brown would be good. Slacks/closed-toe pumps or flats/maybe a cardigan with tasteful jewelry, like pearl studs or something? I wouldn't get too crazy because funerals are conservative events, so if I were you I'd try to stay in darkish colors (maybe a white top, but nothing too colorful) and pretty conservative/nondescript.
on another note...I've never been to a funeral where there was a bar at the reception afterwards! That seems like a recipe for disaster to me - grief plus booze.
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I know, it does seem like a recipe for disaster for anyone- and I know a lot of these people and I think it's going to be bad, bad, bad. But, I couldn't say no. The weather should be fairly warm by then, and I know it will get hot, so I'm wondering if I could possible get away with short sleeves without looking disrespectful.
-- Edited by kmd on Friday 3rd of April 2009 12:23:15 PM
I had to "work" a funeral/wake for a client this winter (basically run it for my boss who was the woman's power of attorney because her family couldn't be bothered to take care of her.) I wore a black pencil skirt, a white cami, a cobalt blue cardigan and 2 long silver necklaces. I wore boots and tights because it was January in Chicago, but I could have worn some comfortable heels if it was warmer. I think as long as you try to look conservative and respectful you will be fine (on the other hand, the client's family wore jeans to the funeral so almost anything I would have worn would have looked respectful by comparison.)
-- Edited by Boots on Friday 3rd of April 2009 01:30:35 PM
Are you working the event, or is this a favor you're doing for friends? If it's work, you should probably wear a "uniform" of black slacks and white button-front shirt. If it's a favor, and you're technically a guest, then you should dress like a guest in black or dark colors. Black slacks and a short-sleeved blouse would be fine with me if the weather is warm.
(I can't remember the last time I went to a "dry" funeral.)
hi! ive bartended on and off for almost 10 years...including a few funerals/wakes, and i totally agree w/suasoria, despite what everyone else is wearing, you should be in a "uniform"...imo, i think its fine to wear any modest type of sleeveless/short sleeve top (in any dark color) with dark trousers. i usually wear a black cap sleeve v-neck top & trousers (both from h&m), w/doc martins; it looks appropriate, but the pieces are cheap enough to work in/get wrecked. hth!