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nyc_shopgirl


Dooney & Bourke

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I am a traditionalist and taking my fiance's name. Of course then his sister and I will have the SAME name and the same birthdate talk about wierdness. But we do spell our names differently and i will prob stick with my nickname which she does not use. I do want to name at least one of my kids with my last name as either their first or middle and I plan to use it as my middle name.


My Bridezilla of a sister (won't go there in this thread) is taking her fiance's name and they are shortening it too.



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jestillman


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i'm changing my name. there are a TON of boy cousins w/my last name so i have no fear of my family name dissapearing. his last name starts w/an "S" too so my initials stay the same and actually get better. I'll be J.E.S. S. and my name is jessica so I think that's cool. i was JES before. Anyway, the only reason i considered not changing it is the hassel. i'm starting the process now and it's just a LOT of waiting and trying to rememer every place that may have my old name....


i had considered changing my name to my mother's maiden name bc there is only 1 boy cousin who may not ahve boys and then the name will die and that is too horrible but i would have hyphenated and I will just make it an important lesson for my children that altho the name may not "exist" anymore the people are just as impt.


this is an issue for my bc i'm jewish and lots most of my family in WWII and there were so many names and so many people that I will never know so to keep those names alive somehow....I also work in Holocaust reparations and deal with names and generational relationships daily so it gets quite complicated. each country has different customs.


a friend got her "new" "updated" SS card w/her OLD name and a different # so now who is she?



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Someone else did what I did.  I made my last name my middle name and use hubby's last name.  I'm an only daughter and my Dad's sister changed her name when she got married, so technically I'm the last person w/ my last name. Period.  So, I didn't want to ditch it.  But, I wanted to have the same last name as my husband.  This way I can still have both. :) 



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When I got married in 1999 I changed my name without thinking twice, however, I do kind of miss my maiden name, I like the way it sounded with my first name and I don't know anyone else with the same last name as me. 


I run into annoyances because I took on a very common (think equivalent of Smith) Hispanic last name, I get Spanish junk mail (I live in Texas, so there is a huge market for Hispanics...maybe more than Northern parts, perhaps it wouldn't even be noticable in other regions) and I get LOTS of Spanish speaking telemarketers and wrong numbers calling my cell phone (not the phone I share with husband).  I also get funny looks when I happen to have a Hispanic clerk looking at my credit card, they will say..."You are Hispanic????" and I always feel kind of put out when I have to explain that no, I am just married.


Anyway, I was born with TWO middle names, so I dropped my last name and took on my husband's last name to keep the middle names.  I do like the idea of dropping a middle name to replace with maiden name, like Hilary Rodham Clinton, but I liked my birth middle names too much to do that.



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rosie_the_riveter


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RyanJ wrote:

I know you asked the question to people getting married and I am not getting married in the near future BUT I am not going to change my name. If my boyfriend wants to take my last name he is welcome too, but it is my name and I want to keep it.
This is exactly what I did when I got married five years ago.  I kept my name, refused his but welcomed him to take mine if he wanted to.  Of course he didn't take it

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