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Kari


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So, I am approaching my delivery date and my friends and family are driving me insane.  Perhaps I have extra hormones raging through me that make me a little less tolerant, but I could kill someone....

A) DO NOT TELL ME STORIES OF WHEN YOU DELIVERED YOUR CHILD (i.e. water breaking, episiotomies, blah blah blah i don't care about you)
B) DO NOT UTTER THE WORDS "MUCUS PLUG" TO ME EVER AGAIN!
C) DON'T ASK ME IF I AM DIALATED!!  I DON'T ASK YOU ABOUT YOUR PRIVATE PARTS!!!!
D) DON'T TOUCH MY STOMACH OR I SWEAR I'LL PUNCH YOURS!

And, I chose to share my current status (dialation, etc) with my mom since she'll be one of the first people I call.  I ask her very clearly not to tell anyone...she tells her best friend, her boss (somewhat understandable as she will be taking off) and my grandmother.  My grandmother then tells my cousin.  Now my whole family is calling me to ask me questions that I do not want to discuss with anyone!  Delivering my first child and welcoming her into the world is something my husband and I want to do together and without a bunch of people calling and sharing their horror stories and showing up at the hospital while I am in labor. 

I just get so frustrated because "do not tell" does not mean tell whoever you want and then tell them not to tell.....it starts a vicious cycle of gossip!  Maybe I am being too sensitive.  I know everyone is happy for us and excited and wants to share in the joyous occassion.  I just didn't want to involve the whole family until she arrives!

And my office mates are the worst!  I get back from a doc appointment to 15 different people asking me about my cervix, water, etc.  Boundaries people!!!

Thanks for letting me vent!!!!

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Farrah


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You aren't alone. I am not pregnant, but I have learned that asking my mother not to repeat something will only get it repeated faster. Hence, I do not tell my mother anything anymore. UGH!

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Elle


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I have not been pregnant myself, but if I were I would not hesitate to ask people equally personal questions if they shot an inappropriate one at me.  And then I would thouroughly enjoy the looks of horror on their faces when I asked what had come out of their vaginas that day :evil:!  Or rubbed their un-pregnant bellies biggrin.gif!  Bwaahahahahahahaaaa!

And IMO your mother has given up the right to receive confidential information regarding this pregnancy.  It's really a shame that you can't share this with her privately, but it was her choice to be untrustworthy.

I don't know what it is about pregnancy that makes people feel like all convention can go out the window?!  Hell, just bite then next person that tries anything stupid - that'll teach 'em!



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Tati


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You poor thing!
Though to be honest with you when I was pregnant (twice) I really didn't care if anyone touched my belly or asked me questions. It might be your hormones, so try and relax. Don't answer your phones and tell your mom not to ever do that again and explain to her why. You gotta understand that she's probably extremly delighted that her daughter is having a baby and its really hard for her to keep her mouth shut! I'm sure if you explain to her how your feeling she'll respect it. But don't leave her out, you'll regret it.
Try and enjoy your last days being pregnant. I know it might be hard. With my 2nd pregnancy I couldn't wait to deliver cause he was bugging me so much inside! But really, try and enjoy that you have a belly for a reason. At some point after having your baby...you might miss the pregnancy part!

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Oh man I would freak if I had those 4 things asked to me constantly too. Hope things fly by quickly so you can quit being so frustrated by people.

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Kelly


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Perfectly understandable! I have never understood why people think pregnant women want to talk about cervices and dilation. I mean, when else is a vagina an acceptable topic?! Why would it be now??

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rosie_the_riveter


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I totally know where you're coming from. My mom was never a problem; however, my MIL was a totally different story. She would go around telling all of these chicks at her work (whom I don't even know) EVERYTHING. She even went as far as to give my home number to one of them so that she could call me (which she did) and "talk" about all things personal within a pregnancy. Ugh! How incredibly annoying. Needless to say, we don't have a very good relationship anymore, Ha! Who am I kidding? Like we ever did! Ok, anyway.....I would just tell her how you're disappointed you are with her in sharing your personal information. And like Tati said too, just try (I know it's hard at this stage) to enjoy the last moments of pregnancy. Good luck!

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