STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

Hey everyone,

I'm getting a feeling that a lot of my mother's side of the family is asking her questions about the wedding, and not asking me. The problem? My mother doesn't have all the info. / agree with all the choices we've made. For example, we're not having children at the wedding. When asked about this, I say something along the lines of "We're having an afternoon ceremony and an evening reception, and the reception will go too late to really be enjoyable for children." My mother says :"They're probably not going to have children at the wedding." I realize she is probably just trying to be polite (and I do tend to be blunt), but I'm worried ppl will get the idea there is some leeway about children being invited.

Already my cousin is thinking of swapping her husband for her (15 yo) daughter to bring to the wedding. Grrrr! How do I know? My mom let it slip that her sister (cousin's mother) said so.

The invitations will be very specific as to who is invited, ex: Mr. X and Mrs. Y Z accept / decline, 2 seats have been reserved in your honor, etc. , so if they have any savvy, they'll know that it is just adults invited.

My problem is that my mother's relatives are asking her questions, and I wish they'd ask me them instead. Is it rude to print a line on the invitation or rsvp that says something along the lines of "Please direct any questions about the wedding to the bride and groom at (phone #) or (email addr)"?  Is it too blunt, or will it seem helpful? Or, will they likely just ignore it?

Thanks for your advice!