So, my boyfriend has asked me to attend a wedding with him in New York City in July. It is a formal, Friday evening wedding in the city. Suggestions for dresses. We are also invited to the rehearsal dinner the evening before (bf is in the wedding). This is semi-formal/cocktail.
Here is the deal. I don't like dresses. At all. I don't wear them unless I am a bridesmaid in a wedding or need a coverup for the beach. I don't wear them because I don't like my legs. At all. They are really muscular from my gymnastics/cheerleading days and that muscle is not serving me well in my old age. I particularly don't like my calves.
So, I need longish dresses. I know the formal one will be easy, but the cocktail one, I am thinking something tea-lengthish, but that is hard to find.
First, is it appropriate to wear tea length at cocktail/semi-formal? Secondly, can I wear black to the formal wedding?
If you girls would post suggestions, I would be very, very, very grateful. I know it isn't until July, but I am already freaking out and it doesn't help that my bf could put on a sack and look awesome! But he won't, because he will wear his custom made suit for the RD and his custom made tux for the wedding!
I am willing to go up to $300 for the RD and up to $500 for the wedding, although, I would prefer to stay in the $200 range for the RD and the $300 range for the wedding.
Just to reiterate previous posts: black is totally fine for NYC, tea length is totally fine for the rehearsal dinner, and if you hate wearing dresses, I don't see why an elegant outfit with a pair of pants couldn't work for the rehearsal dinner.
Just had to post this dress because I love it so much. It's only available in US size 8 though (UK size 12), but it's $442 marked down from $1106 so I had to suggest it just in case that is your size!
I really like Elle's sixth and seventh and final suggestions.
I went to a veerrrry formal wedding in NYC last August and tons of people were wearing black. I plan on wearing black to an evening wedding next month here in TX too. I consider it completely acceptable to wear black to evening weddings today.
I don't have any specific suggestions (although I'll look and post some later) but for the rehearsal dinner a nice pants outfit would be fine. One of my BFFs wore goldish/cream pants and some kind of more formal top (I can't remember if it was a vest or a suit jacket or what) to a formal event where we were all wearing dresses, and she looked the best. Everyone commented on how amazing she looked in her outfit and it was definitely formal enough.
As for the wedding, I know you said tea length but that length tends to accentuate the size of calves more than anything else, imo. I think the most flattering length for larger calves is a skirt that hits right at or just below the knee. But if you're more comfortable with the longer length, that's what's really important. Elle posted some beautiful suggestions. I'll look around and see if I see anything great, too.
P.S. A wedding in NYC sounds totally fun! I had a blast at the one I went to, although it was totally posh. It's so much more fun to get fancied up in a place like NYC than other cities.
I agree about trying to find a fabulous pants outfit for the rehearsal dinner. Unless the crowd is going to be super conservative I think it would go over really well. This is the only good picture I can find right now and of course the outfit is out of your price range but you get the idea. I was also picturing some kind of cream and gold combo - like cream wide-leg pants and a strapless gold top.
As for long dresses, this is the only one that caught my eye in a quick search, though it isn't black.
let's try another take on this--what part of your body do you want to accentuate? like i know you don't like your calves but what part DO you like? I think we might have better results going about things that way.
also, if you don't mind, what part of your calves really bother you? the ankle part? or the upper calf? because if it's upper calf, we can try to have the dress be longer but that's really tricky without seeing it on you--because blubirde's right, certain tea length dresses may hit right at the part of your leg you feel most self-conscious about, in which case, we def. want to rule those out.
I was thinking... What about some black satin pants for cocktail/RD? I wore some black satin pants and a fancy top to a cocktail reception a while back, and I didn't feel out of place.
In terms of height, I am 5'7", so the dresses that hit knee length will be knee length on me, not calf length.
Regarding which part of my leg, I don't particularly like any of it, but particularly the knees/ankles (so that is pretty much all of it I guess). I should note my friends tell me I'm insane, but hey, you get something in your head and it sticks, eh?
So, I am on board with pants for the cocktail reception. Any ideas for a smashing ensemble? If it needs to be more than $300, I'll do it, so really just throw anything out there.
Regarding the wedding, if black is good to go, then suggestions for a formal black dress for the wedding?