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blubirde


Chanel

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I'm not married but I won't change my name. It's mine and it's on all my professional degrees, so I see no reason to. He can change his to mine if he wants but I don't see why he would. To be a little feminist here, I see no reason why a woman should change her name at all. If you want one name for a family, why should she be the one to give up hers? It makes no logical sense, at least not in modern times. That's not a knock on people who do, because it makes perfect sense to want to have a common name between a family. I just don't like that a guy is never asked if he's going to change his name to take his wife's.

But if I ever had kids in a marriage, I would either give them some version of our names together or default to the parent who felt the strongest about carrying on their name.

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I'm getting married in 6 months and I'm changing my name. I do love my maiden name and am a little sad to leave it behind, but I also want to have the same last name as my husband. I respect people who don't change their last name and don't think there's anything wrong with that either. For me, it feels special to have the same name as my husband, and it also means a lot to him.

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Honestly, I'm not married yet, but when I start to think about legally changing my last name, I feel less and less desire to do it.

BF's is short, sweet, and goes well with my name (if a bit too cutesy for my liking). The running joke with everyone I first meet and every customer service rep I ever talk to is "Yeah, I picked my BF out because his last name was short so I could get rid of this (maiden) one".

That said, I am so attached to my ridiculously long (16 letters), VERY ethnic last name that I can't really bear to change it anymore. My last name is too closely tied to my identity...I love being the only person in the world with my name (my legal first name is also very uncommon). I also can't use my maiden name as my last name for purely practical reasons. So I doubt I will change it, even though it has already sort-of hampered my professional career (they just say "her last name is really long and impossible to pronounce")

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Kate Spade

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I don't think I'll change mine. It would be professionally detrimental at this point to change last names (I'm in a field where your name matters quite a bit). I'd still do it for the right last name (haha)... but my long-term boyfriend (who I'm pretty certain I'll marry eventually) doesn't have a great last name, so I'm sticking with mine!

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kittenheels


Coach

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I did it.  I'm an attorney, so it's a pain because you need to change it with the state bar and the federal courts.  I just never really thought about it.  Granted, it took me almost two years of marriage to do it.  I changed my maiden name to be my legal middle name (it's short, only five letters) and my new last name sounds nice.  (Also, it was a good excuse to go out and buy more stationary to reflect the new monogramashamed).

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