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shopgirl82 · Chanel

Do You or Your SO Spend More on Each Other?

Kelly · Hermes

My SO and I make about the same amount of money.

I think he spends more than me on special events. I spend more than I'd like to because I know he'll spend a lot of money - e.g. at Christmas I wanted to spend about $30 on one not-crappy but not-spectacular gift. The more he talked, the more I realized he was planning on spending $50 or $60 - that was kind of a lot for me at the time because I was in a rough spot financially from being sick for a while, but I figured he was worth it and spent about $60 on a couple presents for him. Well when we exchanged presents...he had spent a lot of money on me, a lot more than I had even expected. A few little $20 gifts, and then some really nice white gold hoops!

So in conclusion... he spends more than me, but I think he likes giving special occasion presents more than me. I like giving little cheapo presents often and then a kind of nice gift on special occasions.

If I had to choose between him buying me lunch at subway a few times and getting me a pretty good present, I'd choose the present. We split dinner/entertainment/date costs, but I do think he pays more of those in general. But if I had to choose between a few nice gifts a year and little stupid things all the time, I think I'd pick little stupid things. I like getting little things that says he was thinking of me, and I love the surprise of an unexpected little present on an ordinary day.

lynnie · Chanel

my ex spent more money on me, hands down. He made a little more- its hard to say since we were still in school. but he never spent it on anything, so he would always pay for dinner, etc. We never had big gift exchanges though.

Current- he makes more, but he spends more in general. i make a lot less but have a lot more in the bank- that makes it tricky. He prob spends more on little things like buying drinks, but i got him a pricier christmas present. I think i prefer everyday stuff to gifts, maybe only because the boys i've been with are pretty terrible judges of what i like. Hell, my friends are too, so unless i explicitely say- "i want this"- i don't expect to get something i like. i'd probably be upset if he bought me expensive jewelry that was ugly because then i'd feel obligated to wear it. I've never wanted diamonds or anything and wouldn't even buy that kind of stuff if i was a millionaire. And clothes- forget about it! they'll never know.

littlebean · Kate Spade

Although I think he spends more right now on the day to day (because he has more -- when I had more, I spent more), we are roughly equal in terms of special events and presents and all of that. Just speaking for myself, I would feel uncomfortable if it were any other way -- it's important for me to feel equal in this way.

TheLovelyLady71 · Hermes

Hands down, Joe def. spends (and makes) more than I do, esp. for things for his toys. Sometimes it runs me hot, but it's his money, his hobby. LOL Yet, he gets mad at me when I spend money on clothes/shoes/jewlery. His toys cost WAYYY more than my clothes!

Sandy · Kate Spade

We're pretty equal in both respects, day-to-day and special occasions. He generally pays when we go out, but that evens out with the things I pick up for him when I'm out and about, "just because" (ie: I saw this shirt and it was on sale, so I had to buy it for you; I know you ran out of razors so I got you some while I was at Target)... we usually set a price range for gifts and stick to it. He makes more money than me but has more bills, so at the end of the day, we both have about the same amount of money to play with.

I prefer the big things. I like that he thinks about what I really want or really need and gets it. I love the thought that goes into picking out a gift... buying me Subway doesn't really require that kind of thought, although it is a nice gesture.

Kelly · Hermes

Sandy wrote:
I prefer the big things. I like that he thinks about what I really want or really need and gets it. I love the thought that goes into picking out a gift... buying me Subway doesn't really require that kind of thought, although it is a nice gesture.

ditto. I absolutely love it when my boyfriend picks out something I love, or something that I've been admiring quietly and he saw it and thought it would be something I'd like for Christmas, etc...

Kitty · Hermes

NM!

-- Edited by Kitty at 14:20, 2007-01-19

greendiamond · Marc Jacobs

My hubby spends more on me than I do on him for holidays/special occasions. We make about the same. But, day to day, I spend WAY more. Even once you adjust for the fact that women's stuff is more expensive, I still spend more. But I also do the shopping for things around the home (decore wise).

But, women need more stuff anyways. More shoes and more diversity in the closet. He's just lucky I hardly ever spend full price. And, I have been trying to only buy stuff on my list, and not buy stuff that's not on my needs/wants list.

-gd

shopaholic · Dooney & Bourke

i spend alot on my bf, only b/c the only thing that makes him happy are car parts for his car, i also spend more money on little things but gifts wise, we spend about the same, factoring in everything, i spend more on him b/c i used to make alot more than him, now we make about the same, and he's slowing paying for everything! yay! i loved how when he had no money, he didnt have problems with me paying, i hate guys that would compare and have big egos!

cat · Marc Jacobs

It's hard to say because as far as gifts we spend about the same amount on each other. Although he makes more then me. Overall he spends way more money on me then I do on him;when we go out to eat he insists on paying the whole thing and spends money on gas to drive up to see me.

I rather have him spend money on food and such for me instead of gifts.

ViViDogWear · Kate Spade

With my Ex - I felt like I should pay all the time. He didn't really make legitimate money (gambled alot) so day to day food, gorceries, clothes, etc... I paid for most everything. Then big ticket gifts and travel, he paid.

After him I dated older guys so I always let them pay - I just didn't want to fall back in my old routine. I'll pay for a meal or stuff here and there but in general - I think I'm still a bit ol'fashioned and like the guy to be the guy.

W/my current BF - he pays for most everything. I buy groceries when I cook and pick up clothes and things for him here and there. He makes a lot more $ than me, is older, and also has more bills, but he likes to do activities that I are more expensive than I usually can afford. On the other hand - he also lets me pay for things - i.e. I paid for our Wicked tickets which were $300.

Gifts - he spends more $ on gifts (i.e. trips to Miami, Hong Kong, Temecula, Vegas) and I like to buy nice things but just can't afford to take him on big trips.

I'd rather get a few big ticket gifts than little things here and there. That's just my opinion.

AllieGurl · Marc Jacobs

I spend alot more on him. My DH grew up very poor and so what I consider normal gifts he considers frivoulous. There are times when he has really surprised me ( my diamond watch etc) but most of the time I spend 4 or 5x the amount on him.

But hey thats ok with me. I buy most everything I want anyways I usually dont leave many things for him to get me

erin · Chanel

i spend more on him. i really enjoy shopping for him because he rarely buys clothes and such (though records or books is another story). he buys me stuff sometimes, but usually i prefer to pick items out myself. (and to give him his due, he doesn't care about how much i spend on clothes/etc within reason. it's *me* that's the miser!)

eta: this is kind of a moot point since we only have a joint account.

-- Edited by erin at 21:59, 2007-01-25

sephorablue · Marc Jacobs

He spends more on gifts but he makes like three times what I do, so it's hard to say how it all evens out. But he also almost always buys my drinks and pays for most of my meals when we're out together, which is kind and generous and I appreciate it, since obviously our incomes are very disparate. It definitely helps keep me from being in the position of feeling like I can't go out to bars or restaurants cause I can't afford it.