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Jahni


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A little background:


So in August I moved from Oklahoma City back to my hometown. It is a very very small town with very, very, very, few places to rent or buy. I've been looking for my own place but in the meantime have been living with my parents. They have a two story 3 bdr home. There are two rooms upstairs, one larger than the other. When my parents bought the house neither me nor my siblings were living at home. I have 1 brother who's married w/ a baby, and 1 little sister. The larger of the two rooms is decorated more masculine, and the smaller more feminine. So whenever we would come home, (we rarely all visited at the same time), my sister and I would use the smaller bedroom and my brother the larger, and we viewed them as "our" bedrooms.


Well, since August I've been using the smaller bedroom, however, it's been very very crowded. I lived in a 1,000 sq ft apt before moving home, so trying to cram most of my stuff into one room has been more than difficult. About a month ago, I bought a leather chaise lounge. There's no way it was going to fit into "my" bedroom, but it would go perfectly in the other, larger bedroom.  So my mother suggested I switch rooms. So i did, and it worked out really well. I have room for my computer and some more of my things that have been in storage since August.


Normally this wouldn't be a big deal. But about once a week my brother and his wife and baby come down and spend the night at my parent's house. And they always stay in "his" room. It has a King size bed (the other is a queen), and their babies crib was in there. Well, last night my brother and his family came down to spend the night, and my brother got soooo mad that we switched rooms. He said he didn't realize he was being "thrown out" of his room. Even though he doesn't keep any personal items at my parents house, he doesn't even really keep clothes there.  He and his wife took the baby straight upstairs to their new room and didn't come downstairs at all. We could hear my brother stomping and slamming doors upstairs and when he did come down twice for a drink of water he slammed the cabinet doors and made a big scene (did I mention he's 30 yrs old?). 


I would understand if we had crammed the three of them into a tiny bedroom with no room to walk around, but there is still PLENTY of room for all three of them even with the crib moved into the smaller room.


This morning was no better. He is still so mad. The baby woke up crying last night and my brother told my mom it was because she was scared of the new room...even though she's slept in there before and it never bothered her. So my question is, am I missing somether here? Did I do something wrong? I honestly did not think it was going to be that big of a deal, but he really feels like he's been thown out of his room. Should i switch the rooms back? I feel like I'm in junior high.



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Sandy


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I don't think you're wrong. It's not your brother's house... he doesn't have a room there, he just sleeps in a spare bedroom. It's not like it was his room as a child and he moved out, which makes you even less wrong. What if your parents decided to make "his" room a den or study and he had to sleep in the other room... would there be a difference?

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You're not wrong. He's being very childish. I would defer this to your mom, since it is her house and she's the one that suggested that you change rooms. Hopefully she can tell him how silly he's behaving.

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You are not wrong!

Your brother is a grown man who is married with a child and lives on his own. When he and his family come to visit your parents , they are guests in your parents home. You live at home and your parents who own there home, have given you the larger bedroom.

Your brother needs to grow up. He is acting like a child. (not to mention It is very RUDE that he and his wife while staying at your familys home are hiding out in the guest room)

If he keeps doing it, tell him that he is setting a bad example for his daughter with his disrespectful behavior he has to your parents.



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Your brother is being ridiculous. If my brother pulled such a stunt my mom would say too bad and that would be that. She'd never mention it again and everyone would ignore him if he threw little fits. I know he's your brother and all but what a dweeb!


Can you tell him to grow up and stop acting like a 12 year-old? Maybe you can point out that your living arrangements are temporary and since you spend all your nights there, while he only spends 1 a week (or whatever), maybe he can make do for the small period of time you plan on being there.


I absolutely HATE when people think they deserve something special because they're married and have a kid. Give me a break. (I say this from experience - my brother has 4 kids.) Ugh. Brothers. Boo.



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Your brother is being a big baby.  I'd ignore his childishness.  Maybe suggest if he likes the room so much, he should move back hom and they can all live in it?

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Jahni


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Thanks girls, I had a feeling that I was right in this situation, but just needed a little affirmation.


I absolutley cannot believe that my 30 yr old brother is acting like this. I'm just going to ignore it and hopefully he'll get over it...or I'll move out soon and he can have HIS room back...lol


 



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What a brat!  Ignore him and tell him to get over himself.

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he's just having a tantrum.  theres nothing like going back home to revert you into the bratty kid you were years ago.  I never acted like this- but i do admit i was upset when my old bedroom had been "changed".  People form weird attachments to their childhood bedroom.  he'll get over it.

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