My bf of nearly 7 1/2 years has decided to move out. He has chosen to devote his time 100% to his band, in hopes that they will make it big.
We have decided that we want different things and he can't distribute enough of his his time between the guys, work and us (me and the dogs). He has decided to go and live with the band at the "bandhouse". I really wanted to buy a house but he doesn't feel that he can commit to that and I can't keep just spinning my wheels waiting for him.
So that is that. Thank you so much for your support, I really apppreciate having you girls to lean on.
I am so sorry. You sound very straightforward about it but I'm sure it must be difficult. I applaud you for recognizing that you don't want to spend more of your life waiting for him to want what you want.
As hard as it is, ultimately you'll be happier following your own path - with or without someone else- in the long run. I hope you are okay and please know you can always share with us when you need support or a listening ear. *hugs*
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oh metric, i'm so sorry! you sound like you're handling this really well, but i'm sure it's not easy. good luck with everything, we're here when you need us!
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Oh Metric, I'm so sorry to hear this. Like the other girls have said, I'm very proud of you for putting your needs first, but I'm sure it's still hard. Please keep us posted - we are here for you. ((((Hugs))))
Oh, man - that sucks big time. I'm so sorry Metric. I know how hard it is to walk away from a relationship that's lasted so long (not that long but 5 years for me). It's a catch-22 almost. On one hand you've invested so much for so long but on the other hand why waste more time? It's a really tough decision and I admire you for it.
Vent here as much as you want. We can all sympathize and understand at least a little bit. I hope with this decision, your load feels at least a little lighter. (((hugs))) Whatever you do, don't listen to the radio - a little tip from me to you.
((((((((((((((((((Hugs))))))))))))))))))) so sorry to hear this but iam glad you put your needs first, We are here if you need to talk.Stay strong and just remember it could be best that you and him worked it now and instead of after you invested a house and maybe marriage later.
I am sorry that it had to come to this extreme, but I am happy that you are able to look at the big picture and make sense of the situation and the positives that will come from it. I truly believe that in a situation such as yours if it is meant to be then you will be together one day. You could also find the man of your dreams, buy a beautiful house together and have a great yard for the pups to play in. Best of luck during this time I am sure the pups will take good care of their momma when she is sad.
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