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Kelly


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So, I've been sick for about a week now. I haven't been to any classes except one, and all I've done is sit around my apartment. I tried going out one night to my friend's house a block away, but I left after only a half hour of watching Grey's Anatomy. I honestly don't even have any idea what I've been doing with myself - I feel like this is a great opportunity to do some reading, movie watching, etc. that I feel guilty about usually because there is so much else going on. But I haven't even really kept up with my classwork and I didn't work a lick all week. I have no idea what I've been doing with myself the past week.

Anyway, my friends know I'm sick. Usually I eat lunch with some friends on campus during our breaks, but every time they've called me I've said that I'm home sick. When I left my friend's house in the middle of watching GA, there were quite a few of us there and I told everyone I was leaving because I was sick. Everytime someone calls to ask me to do something, I've told them that I don't feel well. My boyfriend lives out of town, but I talked to him on the phone every day last week and every day mentioned how I'd just been sitting at home all day sick.

The thing that hurts me, is that barely anyone calls to check up on me or see how I'm doing. My mom calls, and my ex of all people calls every couple days to see how I'm doing. Other than that, even when my boyfriend calls me every night he doesn't even ask, "how are you feeling today?" or acknowledge that he even knows I'm sick. None of my friends have called to check up on me or even to say hi. Don't they notice I've been MIA for a whole week now??? I'm so incredibly lonely just sitting in my apartment all day, and just a phone call would cheer me up, because I would know that someone acknowledges I'm having an awful time. I don't want to sound needy, and I don't want to make them come hang out with me, but I feel like this is the kind of time when friends are supposed to come through for you. Friends are supposed to take care of you in times like these! That's what friends are all about! I'd feel bad bitching at them for not paying special attention to me, because that would sound so full of myself, but it really hurts that they just aren't.

I kind of can't believe that no one really cares. I expected it for a few days, but doesn't anyone miss me by now? This is when I need people to come visit me the most! I'm at the point where I'm going a little crazy from the cabin fever and the loneliness. I'm the kind of person who is always happier when there's someone around. I've been alone 90% of the time lately and I'm going insane. My boyfriend is coming to visit me this weekend, but when he was talking about it there was no mention of coming to keep me company or help me feel better. It was all about how he's escaping something at his own home this weekend. Not that his sole reason has to be to comfort me, but it'd be nice to know he's kind of thinking about me.

Whew, I'm sorry, I just had to vent. It hurts a lot that they can't even spare a minute to call and ask how I've been doing. It hurts to the point where I don't even want to call them myself because I'm just angry and sad.


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I know, it sucks. I guess it just reminds us how people don't think about you as much as you think they do.


In my case, I think people just don't know what to say or do - I'm not holding it against anyone though.


anyway - I'm sorry you've been sick for a week! that sucks!



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Ugh!  That is a long time to be sick.  I hope you feel better soon.


Your friends probably don't mean to be so thoughtless.  They are just busy with school and their own social lives.  Plus, they probably think you are a strong person and that you are doing fine taking care of yourself.


I do sympathize with you.  I've had an ongoing problem for the past several months that causes me to get dizzy.  It has made me pretty miserable, and my friends don't really take it seriously.


My theory with these things is that when you feel really good it is hard to remember how miserable it is to be sick.



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call and ask for a visit. I try to be thoughtful, bu tnow that I'm in school, but I'm not avery good friend. If you ask me for something, though, I'll do it. Gladly.

Feel better babe.

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I agree that it totally sucks and I'm sorry you're feeling crappy and even sorrier no one is taking the time to make sure you're okay.


Sometimes people just get so caught up in living their own lives that they forget to be a good friend.  I know you don't want to be needy, but call one or two of your closest friends and you can totally say something like "Hey, I feel like crap and I could really use some company right now.  Is there any way you can come over and hang out with me to lift my spirits?"  I guarantee they'll come over and keep you company.


I hope you feel better...and soon! 



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aww...well, we care!  i hope you feel better soon...maybe your bf has something nice in mind and he just doesn't want to mention it?  maybe he's bringing you some of his mom's homemade chicken noodle soup!


 



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Kelly


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Thanks guys, I know I sound like a whiny little bitch, but I was feeling so lonely and awful about everything last night, I had to vent somewhere!

I started getting angrier with my bf when he called last night and I talked for a while about how I was so lonely and how missing so much school meant I'll probably have to drop a couple classes, lose my scholarship, and push my graduation date back and not graduate in the spring like I was planning...and he didn't even say anything like "I'm sorry, that's hard" before going on even longer about how he got his first B in a class that so far he's had straight As in, and how he's upset. I was about to rip my hair out. But then I said I was having a bad day and he stayed on the phone with me for like three hours to cheer me up, and mentioned that he had a surprise for me when he comes this weekend. This weekend starts my fall break, and he alluded to doing something special for me then, but I didn't get any more clues than that. So maybe he's not as heartless as I think he is.

Then my most self-absorbed friend got online to ask how I was feeling. And later today I'm going to hang out at a friend's house and watch movies just to get me out of the house. I did feel needy, but I did call and say I felt bad and I needed company, and he was more than happy to make plans with me. So it wasn't as painful to ask for help as I thought.

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