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Dooney & Bourke

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i love shopping, i love clothes, but i cant seem to make use out of the clothes i buy.  Where I work, there is no dress code.  I can pretty much wear whatever I want and I tend to always stick with wearing comfortable items such as jeans, tshits, hoodies, etc.  I love getting dressed up but I have no reason to. 


I look at all your thread styles and I'm really envious because I'm not confident when I try to mix and match things in my closet.  I always try to think of a cute outfit for the morning but when I actually put things on, I feel silly.  I feel like I dont look right, the colors dont match, the materials dont match, and I end up throwing on a pair of jeans + hoodie and run out the door.  The problem is, I like to buy cute dressy tops and dresses but they all sit in my closet. 


I'm just sick of wearing the same thing and not getting any use of nice clothes...any advice??? i dont even know what my problem is...



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Hmmmm... I think, because this is how I felt before I started dressing up a lot (and then went to law school and ended up back in the jeans and hoodie rut ) that it's hard for you to take yourself seriously as a dressed up W-O-M-A-N, because you're not used to it. You know how when you put makeup on the friend who never wears it, and she looks awesome, but she wipes it all off because she thinks she looks weird? Sort of the same thing.

So, if I'm right, the best way to get past it would be to dress up in the outfit you would wear if you could wear ANYTHING - copy one of the awesome threadstyle girls if you have to, or stylediary - and go out in a low-risk environment. Shopping or to the movies. Work your way up to feeling comfortable in it. THEN spring it on your coworkers... Good luck!

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Dooney & Bourke

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dizzy...its so funny how you bring up that make up example cause im the girl that wipes off all the makeup.

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NCshopper


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I can totally relate to what Dizzy was saying.  Whenever I have to wear a suit, I feel like a kid playing dress up. 


Anyway, why don't you try wearing jeans with a top that's not a tee shirt?  Or wear a skirt with a tee shirt and hoodie.  Or jeans and a tee shirt with a cute pair of heels.  Just varying it a bit while keeping some piece of clothing in your comfort zone might be a good transition, you know?  Plus, it'll get your coworkers used to the idea of you wearing different things, so when you do start putting different outfits together, their reaction won't be "Whoa!  You look different!"  Comments from coworkers, no matter how innocent they are, can totally make a girl rethink what she's wearing, so if you can ease them into your transition too, then you'll avoid that really awkward feeling.  Hopefully that makes sense.



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NCshopper, its not so much what my co workers say to me, its the fact that I work in a family owned food business and the atmosphere just seems ridiculous for me to get all dressed up since I always have to run in and out of the office area into the production room.  Also, its more about the fact that I feel so self conscious about myself.  I always fee that maybe people are looking at me because of what I'm wearing, and ill think that "maybe my shoes dont match after all", or maybe "this blouse looks odd with these jeans". things of that nature.


i do like your idea of wearing one comfort item with another dressy item, maybe ill try that tomm.



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i totally feel you.  i work in a lab where my boss sometimes stumbles in to work with torn levis that are probably older than me.  everyone's laid back and rotates the same 10 t-shirts and 2 hoodies.  i wore a skirt with a rumpled oxford last week, and i had to field a bunch of "ooh where are you going after work?" kind of questions, and i have to admit, it was kinda weird.  where the hell would i go in a ratty skirt and unironed top? geez.


anyway, i agree with what dizzy and ncshopper suggest. i've definitely ventured out into 'low risk' environments and it helps to build confidence. as for work clothes, in the beginning, i'd try to remain as casual as possible but combine different colors, textures and layers in fun ways. layer t-shirts and play with different lengths.  and if i feel an outfit will be overdressy, i bring along a cardigan or sweater to throw on during my "omg wtf am i doing wearing this to work" moments.


and if you have anything that you feel like a million dollars in, i'd build a few outfits around that.  it definitely helps if you know you look good



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I always have that problem.  It's just really hard to plan work outfits for me.  I've started picking a piece of clothing and just trying to create as many outfits as I can and taking pictures of them.  Then I have a record of what worked! 

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I would get another persons opinon. Whenever I feel in a clothes rut I invite over my SIL and have her put outfits together for me. I do the same for her also. Sometimes just having another perspective on your wardrobe as well as the positive reinforcment " that outfit looks great, totally wear that shopping this weekend etc.." is all the push you need.

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yeah, I feel ya. My office is "business casual" and even though people dress professionally enough, they are just DUMPY. It's like people don't put one ounce of effort into their appearance. I'm seriously known as the "office fashionista" and that's how office people introduce me to their SO and friends at social work events.

I sometimes have to force myself to put the effort in - but when I do I always feel better. stylediary has helped me a lot.

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