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BeauteJilly


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I hope you gals would read and help me out on this one.  I am in very sticky situation right now.  My 5 years relationship with this guy who I m still in love with and vice versa.  But the problem is that we both have been on and off in long distance. We re getting tired of it. Its just because we both are not yet established with our lives yet. We both are bit late bloomers in life itself. Anyway,  Right now.. We just turned in long distance 2 weeks now.  He is now starting to be confused if I m the right one for him and confused with his commitment with me because of long distance itself.  If we are together in person, we totally are in love and doing great.  Its the long distance that kills us.  He just happened to chat and started to realize he may have feelings for other woman that he would see everyday at his university while I m in other city all alone. I have been crying hard last 2 days. I dont want us to end this relationship.  I was the one who made decision to move to other city.  Did I make the stupidest mistake?  Reason why I moved because I cannot support myself to live there on my own. I need to find job first there before I can really find a place to live which I dont have neither. 


By the way, Yeah I worked at Department of Transportation. It was just an internship. It was supposed to be year long after I complete my summer internship but they changed their mind and decide not to hire anyone as of now because they are moving to other building and it is a total mess. I was devasted and left with nothing for now. Right now I am jobless and homeless  (right now i m living with my parents-rent free until I find something.)  I am 26 yrs old. I need to get moving and I do not want to be apart from my boyfriend either. Any advices?



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pinky


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I think that if he is having feelings for another person, then he is not ready to be fully committed to you.  I know it's hard to hear, and five years is a long time, but when and if you get married, you both need to be 100% sure about your decision. 


When people show your their character/personality,etc.., believe them.  He is not only showing, but is saying he has feelings for someone else.  Please believe him, rather than wait five more years and  then realize that he does not want to be with you.


I dated a guy for 5 years, ages 19-24.  We broke up 4 months before our wedding.  I met someone great shortly after, and I've been married for 7 years.  At the time I was really disappointed, but life goes on.



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AllieGurl


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I am so sorry to hear about this! You must be very upset !

Sadly it sounds like he is moving on :(

Relationships are about give and take and sometimes sacrifice. While you obivously love him very much, perhaps both of you subconsiously were not fully committed since you choose to leave instead of stay and he choose to stay instead of follow you?

As the previous poster said , life does go on. I hope it works out, but if it doesnt I am sure in time you will find someone new.

I wish you the best ...

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Dizzy


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Well, for what it's worth, moving so you can support yourself sounds lik e apretty smart decision. I mean, what if you'd stayed, been dependent on him, and THEN he foun this other girl. So it souns like you're doing hte best you can and making some adult decisions and things really will work out for you sweetie - I swear...

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