STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

I wanted to thank everyone who gave me such great support during this hard time for me. I don't think I can ever tell you how much it helped. I thought you would all like to hear an update.

There were still some things I wanted to talk to DH about concerning "the incident" and we were very busy all last week so I didn't get a chance to until Friday night. I hated bringing it up again, but he was very understanding about my need to talk a little more about it and continue my healing process. He had been so scared and emotional telling me about the girl and the kiss that his story wasn't very clear and didn't really have an ending, and that's what was bothering me. It seemed like she just went away and then he decided to stay with me and I was feeling very much like a consolation prize. Well, that wasn't the case at all. He said that what they had wasn't any type of relationship at all, but more of an attraction that just went too far by accident one day. He said they both knew it was a mistake and a stupid thing to do, talked about it once, and then never really talked again. So, for my DH it was more of a wanting to feel that rush you get from a first kiss one last time, type of thing. He knew it was very wrong, and that's why he told me about it, but it was not a relatioinship at all. I told him that I understand everyone gets that sad feeling that they will never have the rush or feeling of new relationships or first kisses again, but it wasn't fair that he decided to do it one last time before we got married. He agrees 100%.

We discussed the reality that when you get married you can't stop yourself from being interested in other people, but that we want to always be honest with eachother if we feel something is getting to a dangerous place. We want to be very connected and open and it may sound cheesy, but we want to really work hard on keeping the spark alive in our marriage. I feel closer to him then I ever have, I trust him and his love for me more then I ever have. I haven't even thought about the incident since then, because I now see how insignificant it was, even thought it was still wrong. I have forgiven him and we are closer then ever. I am very excited about the new level in our relationship and working on communicatioin and staying close and connected, open and honest. Getting over this hurdle together makes me very confident about how we will get over things in the future and that our marriage will stand the test of time "for good or for bad". I want to thank you all again for being here for me!!

-- Edited by Luv2Shop at 12:56, 2006-08-14