I don't really have anything to add as everyone has given you awesome advice, but I just wanted to say that I feel for you, and that I know the 2 of you will come out on the other side of this as an even stronger couple. Good luck and hang in there!
I am so sorry that you are going through this...I am so proud you are trying to be strong...I am not sure how I would react to that situation...know we are always here for you and would never judge
I'm so sorry you're going through this too...as hard as this is, what really stands out is how deeply your husband loves you. I have no doubt that your marriage will be stronger after you work through this.