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kahluamilk · Dooney & Bourke

my bf is leaving me!!!

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

what??? how could anyone leave houston for the country??? I mean yes I miss walmart but that's not a reason to pick up and move!!

Ok now that that is out of my system I'm sorry and I thought your post was going to be worse than this. Long distance works for some people and for others it doesn't. I think it depends on how much you have invested in the relationship already and how much yall were planning on investing in the relationship you know. For me it didn't work but then again I wasn't trying to work it out.

Claudia · Gucci

Aurora wrote:

what??? how could anyone leave houston for the country???

ditto.

Yes, long distances relationships work. I'm in one right now and we are both happy. It's hard though!! At least you two don't live too far away.

-- Edited by Claudia at 22:03, 2006-07-26

Kelly · Hermes

kahluamilk wrote:

So-- long distance relationships.. do they work??

I think they definitely can, and it sounds like you two have been together for a while? I'm dating someone right now who lives 1 1/2 hours away. We've always lived that far away, and it was hard to get everything off the ground initially, but we were just honest about how much energy we could put into it, and how commited we could be. For us, I think it could work. And for you, since you're already commited, I think it can work too. Plus, it's only an hour away - I know it sounds like forever, but it could be longer. You'll still be able to go see him just for an evening if it's important, spend the night and just wake up an hour earlier for work the next day. It's good that you'll still be close enough to be there for each other if you really need to!

small fry · Chanel

Hang in there it may be tough at first but since you are both commited it should work out fine. We are here when you need to girl talk

kittenheels · Coach

My husband and I were long distance for a year (LA and NY) after dating for about 9 months. So, I'd say it definitely can work!

kahluamilk · Dooney & Bourke

aurora/claudia-- i know--- houston has everything! it will be a major "culture shock" for him as well!!

ttara- we're actually going to be 4hrs apart-- but yea--- yall are right, it's not THAT far away!

thanks for all the kind words.

i guess now i have to figure out what to do with myself during the weekdays-- stay busy-- take up a hobby or something...

Aurora · Marc Jacobs

ok girl think positive. If it will be a culture shock maybe he will find a better job back home soon

But in the mean time I think a hobby or activity would be a good thing to do. Maybe you can do the meet halfway in austin to cut down on some travel time.

laken1 · Hermes

My DH & I dated long distance (8 hours) & ended up married. Since you have spent time together a lot already I think it would be easier -for us the adjustment period was going from not seeing much of each other to seeing each other every day - I mean, I can be nice to almost anyone on just weekends. But I think if you are both committed you can make it work. My #1 recommendation is Vonage or another broadband phone company that you can call for free all the time. Otherwise your phone bills will break you.....

My main concern would be - where is this job going for him? Will he be there forever? Is that ok with you - ie, would you move there? If not I'd have to look at what I value most & wonder why he went there knowing you wouldn't....(not to be the joykill, just saying).

cat · Marc Jacobs

My new boyfriend lives four hours away and so far it hasn't been that bad (we've been dating 2 months).
He doesn't mind driving so he comes to see me about everyother weekend. A sometimes he comes up early on Friday mornings/afternoons and goes back Sunday night (he works pretty flexible hours though).

So yes as the other girls have said it can work out.

I was in one long distance relationship awhile back that didn't but he lived across the country from me and we only saw each other once every 6 months if lucky.

shopaholic · Dooney & Bourke

aww....i know exactly what you're going through...2 months ago my bf just decided he was going to move to Vegas to live with his brother, i live in ny. we've been together for almost 6 yrs and we're still going strong. i cried so hard the first time i dropped him off at the airport, and the first week was really hard for me but he just came back to ny last weekend and when i dropped him off i was pretty ok. and as claudia said...at least you guys arent too far apart... u guys are still in driving distance...you'll be ok. dont worry!

ohh and about keeping yourself busy, i started working out, spending more time with my dog, my family, my friends, ohh...and i shop A LOT more now =). if you get lonely, you should get a pet, they are really good company!