looks like everyone has their favorite, but I like L'Oreal VIVE 3-minute something-or-other (it comes in a tube, not a jar. There's a jar one too, but I don't like it). I have to use it about every other day because my hair gets so dry, but it's fine, too, and this doesn't weigh it down.
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"We live in an age where unnecessary things are our only necessities." --Oscar Wilde
1) I absolutely LOVE the deep conditioner you get with the hair dye kist (I use the Feria one). It's amazing, and I try o salvage as much as possible so I can use occasionally.
2) Haven't used it in years, but it's in the ethnic hair section - in a tub/jar and it's kinda like orange Tang colored choloesterol? conditioner. Work wonderful if your hair is permed from what I remember. Real cheap - like $3 something!
I buy the cheapo hairdye (the kind I would NEVER use but always goes on sale for a dollar) and take the conditioner out of that and toss the rest. Cheap and works better than anything else I've tried!
I also find that they John frieda hair gloss stuff makes my hair really soft and slinky and makes it feel very conditioned.