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Chanel

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I hope you ladies dont mind hearing about these, but I feel comfortable sharing this with you.


#1 of all I quit my part time job, this was the greatest feelingI started thinking why and the hell do i need to do this as much as I love my c-c cards -dept store cards they are not worth having a part time job. I need to have money for what is important. This really hurt b/c I know my credit will get messed up but that is something I will have to work on later.     


#2  I told my husband I need some space and he needed to go stay with his grandma. Its in the same town so he will watching Chris when I go to work.  This happened yesterday and it was a very tough choice. It was a very draining day. He has emailed me and said he will do what it takes to have us together again. I believe him but i still need some time and this will give him time to really think on what needs to change. Although I feel like such a B... but Iam sure this will pass. Thank you ladies who p-m me and for all your support. Iam  grateful from the bottom of my heart   



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kaykay, I'm so proud of you.  I'm glad you stopped busting your ass and quit that part time job, especially if it's not totally necessary.  More importantly, I'm so proud of you for telling your hubby you need space and for him to go stay somewhere else.  Maybe this will make him finally wake up and realize he needs to get some sort of job and contribute to your family.  Good for you.  Sometimes the only way someone can get perspective is to get away from the situation.  Good luck and keep us posted

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I'm proud of you, Kaykay.  I know it was hard, but you made 2 good decisions yesterday.  I'm sure it will all work out for the best, girl.  Hang in there!

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So proud of you! You are doing the right thing. I am so glad that you asked your husband to leave for a while. You deserve so much more and he is just sucking the life out of you. You are a strong woman. Please do not weaken or give up on your true feelings, because you feel guilty. You have done nothing wrong. He needs to know how serious you are about things you have asked of him.


You and Chris deserve the best and if dh continues to bring nothing to the table, well then I think you know what my advise would be...


We are here for ya! Good luck! :)



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I'm so proud of you! It took some serious guts to do both of those things and I'm so happy you did them. I hope DH takes this time to do some self-evaluating on his own and realizes how he needs to contribute.


In the meantime, join our shopping ban and maybe quitting that 2nd job won't hurt so much. Good luck, kaykay.



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Kaykay, I followed your troubles but haven't replied before.

Just wanted to let you know how proud I am of you for taking your life into your hands and making this difficult decision. I am sure you will be happier now at least being able to spend time with Chris.



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good for you.  that took a lot of strength.  if dh is serious about doing whatever it takes, he will take this time to find a job. 


we are here for you if things get tough. 


hugs. 



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You're NOT a bitch! I'm so proud of you! And this will work out. It's going to be ok - just take care of yourself for a little while.

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you are such a strong woman, and you really are acting as a great role model for chris.  just continue to be strong.



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I am so glad to hear this!! It sounds like you're taking your life into your hands and making some critical and important decisions.

Just curious..why will your credit suffer? You didn't cancel the cards, did you? Couldn't you just have cut them up?

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curiouscookie wrote:

Kaykay, I followed your troubles but haven't replied before. Just wanted to let you know how proud I am of you for taking your life into your hands and making this difficult decision. I am sure you will be happier now at least being able to spend time with Chris.
Kaykay, I have followed your posts too, and I think you made a wise decision.  Hang in there - you deserve to be treated well and taken care of.

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I'm proud of you too--I'm glad you did both those things!

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Thank you ladies its great to be able to talk to you.


Kitty yes I did cancel my cards b/c I was only able to make the minimum payment and they were max out. I was cutting expenses and needed to make sure rent,food etc came first.  



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Good for you kaykay.  That sounds like it was tough, but I think you did a good thing.  Hopefully this will serve as a big, fat wakeup call to your husband and he can get his ass in gear.  Please continue to keep us updated.  I'll keep you guys in my thoughts.

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(((hugs))) I'm glad that you're taking care of yourself.

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Sending lots of hugs your way.  I know this was a difficult decision to make and act upon.  But either way that it turns out, it will be for the better. We ST'ers will be your cheering section for sure!

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Kaykay, you are one strong woman! Keep us updated on how things are going. We're all behind you.

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