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Mandy


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alright girls, seems like there are a few of us on a dating ban.  perhaps we can all check in now so we know who is in.  we can also post slip ups and whatnot for support.


i'll start-


hello, my name is mandy, and i am dateaholic.  i've been on the ban about 2 weeks and my plan is to make it 2 more at least.  i almost slipped up last night....  i went to a movie in the park with my cousin and her friend l.  l is cute and super romantic.  problem, his last girlfriend is a friend of my cousin and sort of a friend of mine too.  i know he is romantic because of all he did to woo her back when things were over (sent a mariachi band to her house, but it didnt work).  i even hold him up as my example of what i want in a guy as far as grand gestures go.  so anyway, im attracted to him but its a bad idea and i don't think he is that into me.  we were up all night together last night (im soooo sleepy now).  we didn't do anything naughty, but i want to go out with him so bad now.  i know this is a bad idea and im not going to let myself get involved.  just say no.   



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gingembre1


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Sign ME up!!!


 


Hi, I am a dateaholic.  I have not been single for longer than a week since last July.  I date more than one person, I overlap, I flirt outrageously, I'm addicted!  I have been 100% single since Saturday night, and I want to be single for the next 3 months(at least).  My challenge:  Not to cave in and go back to German boy, and not to cave in to my ex's booty calls.  Oh, and not to flirt with any new salsa boys. Whew, I think I can do it.



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Dizzy


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Hi, my name is Dizzy, I dated at least three guys at once until about two months ago - my high point was six. I am 31 and divorced, so over and over these guys who drool and beg have to slide in the little disclaimer "I didn't think you'd want anything serious..." which makes me feel like shit (Even though I'm not sleeping with them obviously, who has that kind of time?)

When I do pick just one to date/sleep with, I settle for guys who are weak, insecure, manipulative and incredibly critical (probably because my mother was weak, insecure, manipulative and incredibly critical). In the past year, I've had two three-month relationships that ended disastrously and left me wondering "what was I THINKING?"

I need to spend the summer on my own (so no dates until August 16 - god that is a really long time!). With my new free time, I want to learn to meditate and become more confident and self-sufficient. I've had some successes: So far this summer I've turned down five guys who I could tell were into me but would never date me seriously. And some failures: the boring snaggletoothed jackass I dated last semester was starting to look good again in the last week... but it will never work and I deserve better. Dammit.

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cat


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Hi my name is cat: I am a total dateaholic. Who constantly gets involved with the jerks who always present them self as "Mr. Sensitive" at first.


I have been single for 4 months.
My goal is to be single long enough to figure out what I want from a realtionship,from myself ,and what I want from someone I am involved with.Something I can't seem to do while dating or pursuing some guy.I need to get my life in order before I share it with anyone.


I plan to stay single as long as it takes to figure out what I really want and need from a man.(at least that's the plan).


Currently though there is this sweet guy that is really tempting me (not intentionally on his part).
I might post more about him some time.



For now I know I need to just say no.



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kenzie


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Oooh, oooh! Me, me!! My name is kenzie and I'm a dateaholic. Especially when it comes to dating the wrong men. Or coworkers (eek).


I'm determined to get through the summer without dating. This should be good. If I make it, it will be the longest I've gone without dating or being in a relationship. I just feel that I really need to heal from the breakup with Stupid. I finally and completely cut him off just two short months ago. And I'm still so damaged (and I'll admit, slightly bitter) from the whole fiasco. Add this to my dating insanity from the past few months and I'm just exhausted.


So. This summer is all about me, me, me! No one else. I'm going to party in Atlantic City. I'm moving into my own apartment. I'm probably going to start taking classes again. I'm meeting new people. It's all about me. I need this. I can do this.


*End pep talk to self*



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jah


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I'm in...


I am also a dateaholic (or manaholic).  I meet the wrong men, everywhere, but generally through work.  They end up hanging around forever, even when I know that things won't go anywhere. 


Last week, I decided to take the next 12 months off (I'm serious).  By the time this ban is over, I will be 30 and hopefully have an idea of what I am really looking for in a life partner (or if I am even looking). 


This decision will really open up some free time, so I am also committing to running another marathon, starting Spanish classes, and enrolling in Advanced Silversmithing classes again!  That should keep my mind off the men!!


 



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poohka


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I'm In!!! Hi I'm a dataholic. I think in the past 5 years I have been alone for no more than a few weeks. Some of these guys have overlapped. I justify it by telling myself that I'm young and should be dating. The problem is I don't know what I'm looking for. The only way to find that out is to take time to myself.

A year ago I had a bad break up and decided to take time to myself. 2 days later went to an event and meet someone whom I thought was good for me. It was a rebound thing so I should have known...NEVER fall for the rebound guy. That was over a year ago. I cute off sexual contact with the rebound guy, (we still talk occassionally).

I have gone as far as dating someone off the internet. 2 dates and I told him no thanks. This search for MR. RIGHT is exhausting.

*DEEP BREATH*

*DEEP BREATH*

I vow before you all that i will go six months without a date of any kind...and no booty calls from the ex. I'm ready because I can't keep going on the way I am.

I am going to throw myself into my biz, take some classes I've been putting off, and enjoy the summer.

I am going to learn how to be ok with me, and to date myself. I would never think about going to a restuarant alone or a movie. But I'm going to start. If I can't be with me how can I expect anyone else to want to long term.

2 movies and 2 dinners by myself....I will keep you all posted.

We can do it ladies!!!



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jah


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poohka wrote:

 I would never think about going to a restuarant alone or a movie. But I'm going to start. If I can't be with me how can I expect anyone else to want to long term. 2 movies and 2 dinners by myself....I will keep you all posted. We can do it ladies!!!

 


I started going to movies alone about two years ago.  It's great!  I thought about it one day... really, no one else in the movie theater cares that you are there alone.  Only YOU notice it.  AND...you get to see whatever YOU WANT TO SEE!  Woohoo.  Anyway, take the leap girl and you will be going to movies alone all the time. 



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poohka


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JAH !!!!! I did it...After I posted I decided not to just say it but to go do it so I went out to a movie and got a bite to eat...by myself...I was so proud when I got home. I must say I don't make a bad date.

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Dizzy


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Yay Poohka! Going ot the movies is awesome. I'm having a miserable time watching tv alone this weekend. I have somewhere to go tomorrow and Monday though, so it will get easier...

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poohka


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Yay Poohka! Going ot the movies is awesome. I'm having a miserable time watching tv alone this weekend. I have somewhere to go tomorrow and Monday though, so it will get easier...

Thanks Dizzy. I'm glad today is over and you have something to look forward to..tomorrow I have no plans..so that will be the test..Maybe I'll go to the city..ther is always something going on in the summertime. Good luck girl!!!

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jah


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poohka wrote:

JAH !!!!! I did it...After I posted I decided not to just say it but to go do it so I went out to a movie and got a bite to eat...by myself...I was so proud when I got home. I must say I don't make a bad date.
WooHoo!  GOOD FOR YOU!  See, now you can go to the movies anytime you want!  I'm sure you made a great date!

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I am not single but just wanted to say that I am cheerleading for you girls...


 



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