I wanted to give you ladies that helped me and update on my issue. I took all of your advice to heart. I erased his numbers, email address, etc. as to not be tempted to contact him. Then on day I got up and I didn't care about him any more. It just simply didn't bother me. He did call just like he normally does. Instead of not answering...I told him i didn't want to communicate with him in any way. He says he doesn't understand, but that's not my issue. He calls about every other day now, but now I don't answer. I know I'm not totally over him and I probably never will be after 13 years but it sure is a whole lot easier. I want to thank all of you. Knowing that I wasn't the only who has had these feelings...has made it easier to get through. Thanks again ladies.
That's so great! Good for you! Thirteen years is a long time, but I really think you will be over him someday. Don't worry, it will get easier as time goes by.
Just a little advice: if he won't stop calling you and it gets worse (he shows up somewhere to see you, for example), that constitutes harassment. You might want to keep track of how often he calls or emails or whatever in case you ever need to talk to authorities about it. I don't mean to be an alarmist but I had to do that in college, and I hate to think of other girls experiencing it.