So, my friend just called me all bummed out because he got an email that he didn't get a job he interviewed for. He asked me my opinion on their comments...and I was a little taken aback (sp?). I've never heard this or ever heard of anyone else being told this...any of you have an idea of how to interpret this comment?
This is just a paraphrasing...
"Whenever I heard this comment years ago, I would just get mad. However, now I understand it. Your personality is not compatable with the long term business goals we had in mind."
Secondly - As a friend, am I obligated to tell this guy that his confidence sometimes comes across as cocky or abrasive? Or do I just leave this alone?
ETA: Jahni, if you read this - I'll fill you in on details tonight...yes, it is who you think it is.
Anyway - I encouraged my friend to contact them and just ask for some more information or advice they may have that can help him in the future with his job search. I told him it could just be the only thing they could think of since he was qualified for the job.
Hmmm...I've never heard of anyone actually being told that, but I think it is pretty common for personality to be a reason that an individual doesn't get a given job. I was just reading a CNN article yesterday that said that personality was around 30% of the consideration when looking for new employees. I've been on many interview teams at my company and we always discuss the interviewee's personality after the interview. We want someone who suits are culture.
It doesn't necessarily mean that your friend has a bad personality, just that they thought he wasn't a good personality fit for that particular company.
At this point, I'd leave the cocky thing alone. It may be true, but it sounds like your friend just needs to be comforted now.
It sounds like he said something that offended the interviewer. I don't think they were saying he has a bad personality. I think they were trying to tell him that either he broke some sort of unwritten rule of conduct, or, more likely, he just said something that personally the interviewer strongly disagreec with. And he or she disliked him enough to be fairly direct about the fact that the comment cost him the job. Or maybe they were trying to do him a favor and let him know not to say it again. But I think it's more like they were trying to say he's not a good fit with what they're trying to do - like maybe he's abrasive, and they're really looking for someone to mediate disputes between service providers and clients... Is he new in this field? Is it possible he did the equivalent of telling a newspaper editor that the media often is ill-informed, and he's a big fan of Fox News? Because that's kind of what it sounds like...
Anyway, that's just how I read it. I wouldn't share this theory with your friend, though... Maybe just sort of ask him what comment the interviewer was referring to, and ask if that's a common opinion in the field, or if the interviewer had any sort of bias? Either way, it sounds like he wasn't a good fit with this company.