Please send your thoughts to a girlfriend in Australia. I'm telling you all this because I've witnessed your compassion for others in similar situations. We're going to send flowers and a card today.
Last night my husband told me that a friend, who was nine months pregnant, had a stillborn child. She went to the doctor on her due date and told the doctor that the baby wasn't moving. And they did some tests and there was no heartbeat. They're going to to an autopsy to find out what happened. Two weeks before she was due, she flew home to Australia from New York to be with her family for the birth. Of course, any form of a miscarriage is devasting, but I can't imagine the loss when you've carried the baby with you for nine months.
My understanding is that the no flying during the third trimester rule is a little outdated. I think it is recommended that pregnant women consult with their doctor, but that it generally isn't a problem for a healthy woman w/ healthy baby to fly.
that's so terrible. this happened to a former coworker of mine. it just broke my heart that she had to go through labor and everything -- to deliver a dead baby.
I'm so sorry for your friend. My thoughts are with your poor friend.
It's okay to fly when you are in your third trimester. In fact a friend of mine who travels a lot for work asked her doctor to write her a note saying she couldn't fly because she was in her third trimester and her doctor said that it is actually the airlines that don't want you to fly when you are that far along. It isn't that you can't or that it is going to hurt the baby. It is because if you go into labor, there might not be adequate medical care.
oh god. that must be one of the worst things...she probably knew something was terribly wrong even before her doctor said anything. and then to hear the doctor say her worst fears out loud? oh god. yes, good thoughts and positive vibes to your friend in australia.
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