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itsapinkthing


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My Dad just called and is upset because we "just going to call them when the baby is born". When my first was born my parents came to the hospital for the whole labor. This time I want it to just be my husband and I in the labor and delivery room. I want it to be a special time for us to bond over. I don't want people constantly asking for updates and knocking on the door. Worse yet I do not want my Dad there trying to take pictures! It's not like we are having my in-laws or any other friends there either, just us until they move us to the post-partum room. So we have time to go through the process and 2 hours to recover and then can see people. Why is that so wrong?!

ETA: They are going out of town on Wednesday, to the east coast for my brothers bridal shower. So my mom has called and said "the baby is not cooperating, we wanted her here already", sorry but this is the safe way to do things and what my doctor wanted. Sorry I could not plan my labor around your trip but you knew our Due date for what, 8 months now?!

-- Edited by itsapinkthing at 17:27, 2006-02-13

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1.  Laboring as you choose with whomever you want present is your God-given right as a woman.  Don't let anyone make you feel guilty for it! 


2.  This is not the time to be worrying about accomodating others, because isn't about them it's about you.  Who wants to watched like a pot to boil and be forced to entertain guests amidst attempting to concentrate on labor/birth?  Not I!  And not them either, if they thought about it that way.


3.  Of course your parents want to be there for you, but that wish should not be put ahead of respect for your choices.  It's just not their decision to make.



-- Edited by Elle at 17:29, 2006-02-13

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Don't stress out about it. It's totally your decision and there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. It's not cool of your dad to put pressure on you at this point but I guess that can't be helped now. Just stay positive and I promise that new beautiful baby you show them will erase any of their complaints.

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Aww...hon, I'm sorry!  That sucks that they're not being as understanding as they should.  I totally don't blame you for just wanting it to be you and your husband.  I'm sure that deep down they understand too, but their excitement is just getting in the way of their understanding. 


Anyway, good luck tomorrow!!!  I'm sure everything will be fine with your parents again once the baby's born. 



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Good luck with the birth! You're doing the right thing by putting you and your husband first in this situation. It's a beautiful, intimate experience for you to share as you wish.

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Don't stress about it! Parents can be unreasonable, but you are the one giving birth and you should make a decision based on your own preferences. Your parents will come around once the baby is born - or else what will they do? Refuse to see you? Love their grandchild less? You can also at that point remind them that it is customary to be nice to pregnant women and new moms But as for now, take a big breath and think only about your baby Good luck!

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