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Mandy


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do you think vacation flings ever work out to be something more? 


i meet this wonderful guy in costa rica a few weeks ago.  we had a great time hanging out, he is really sweet, fun, and super hot.  i really didn't expect to meet anyone there (because i was with my family) and really didn't want to, thats why im so suprised at how great he was.  anyway, i live in atlanta and he lives in edmonton (ridiculously far away).  when i left he said that he fully expected to see me again because there is obviously something there and that he wasn't going to let me get away.  he just got back monday and called me on tuesday.  he told me he thought about me all the time after i left and missed me a lot.   i must admit i have thought about him a quite bit too. 


he was so sweet on the phone and said that when he finishes a big project at work in about a month he plans to come visit and stay for a while so that we can spend more time together.  i'm just so skeptical about guys, especially when they come on so strong at first (esp in light of nicoley013's recent experience).  i would think that he is a player but that seems pointless because of the distance.  my gut tells me that he is sincere but im just cynical about dating.  i have thought about him a lot and i don't think its one of those just doing it because don't have anyone else things.  i have actually been seeing someone here for almost three months but its been really slow progressing and i have no idea whats going on.  we have never even discussed if we are exclusive or dating other people.  i have taken this as a green light to date others. 


i guess i just wanted to share because im excited he called and seems to really like me and to get a you guys' prospective to see if this sounds ok or fishy.  im excited but cautious.        



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I say if he has already contacted you and saying he's coming to see you, it's for real.  If you hadn't heard from him I would say it was just a fling.  Go with it, is sounds so romantic!!  Keep us posted.

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I have had great experiences with vacation flings! I kept in touch with one & he lived in Little Rock & I was in Baton Rouge - about 7 hour drive. But we saw each other several times a year & talked fairly often. We ended up really being friends but he was a doll!

And I married someone I met on vacation that lived 8 hrs away -although he really wasn't a "fling" since we didn't fling at the time - but later we obviously did!

Sounds promising.

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Never in my history nor any of my friends history's has the vacation fling ever worked out.

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Elle


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Hmm, I guess I'd say 'proceed with caution'.  It really could go either way.


Honestly, I only know of one vacation fling where the couple ended up staying together, and it was because the girl got pregnant while she was there (Mexico) .  Whoops!


Hopefully though you'll be one of the lucky one .



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I'm laughing now because I just realize that I know of a lot of people who married "vacation flings."


My own husband was sort of a vacation fling.  We met in San Francisco.  I'm from Seattle and he's from Canada, we had both travelled down there for a concert.


My best friend from high school now lives in Hawaii with a guy she met when we were on a trip down there.  They've been together for 7 years now.  I have a good friend from college who is now married to a guy she met on a cruise, and I have another college friend who married a guy she met on a spring break trip to Mexico.


Of course, Seattle has a horrible dating scene, so it is no surprise to any of us that we had to go outside our area code to find a guy suitable for a serious relationship.


I say have fun with it while it works, and let it go when it doesn't.  Of course, proceed with caution and use common sense.



-- Edited by luckylily at 18:10, 2006-01-25

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sounds like alot of fun! i think that while in the majority of cases they don't work out, it sounds like this guy is generally interested in you so i would definitely give it a chance. i have a close friend that married a vacation fling that she met on a cruise... and they are the cutest, most in love couple!

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Believe what he does, not what he says, guard your heart by not allowing feelings to progress to quickly, and you should be fine either way. Enjoy the attention!

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I agree with Dizzy. Enjoy it but keep the dating door open

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I say have fun with it while it works, and let it go when it doesn't.  Of course, proceed with caution and use common sense.


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This is well-worded and my advice as well..



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Mandy


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thanks ladies.  its good to hear that it is possible for this to work out.  we talked again last night for like 3 hours. (random side question: does anyone know if canada is included in the long distance with a normal sprint cell phone plan??)  im still trying to be really cautious and guarded but its hard when i have someone on the phone who keeps telling me how much  he misses me and can't wait to see me again.  i figure i'll keep dating here until i see him again and then re-evaluate.  i'll keep you posted!

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Mandy wrote:

(random side question: does anyone know if canada is included in the long distance with a normal sprint cell phone plan??) 
No, Canada isn't included in your regular plan.  Sprint does have a plan where you can add Canada that is pretty affordable tho.

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i had a vacation fling last about 6 months... 


long fling if you ask me.



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