Alright...I talked to N the other night and told him that I was going to end things with T b/c I didn't see it working out. N's response was, 'so who else do you have lined up back there?' And I told him that there wasn't anyone here. So, long story short, he was way excited about this and I think he's got the message that I want to be with him. Since that little convo, he's been waaaaay more attentive (not that he wasn't before, but I could tell he was bothered by something...obviously, it was the other guy). In the past two days we've probably talked for 6 hours. Of course, this just makes me miss him even more. May can't come fast enough!!!!
As for T, I'm holding out until after the weekend to break it to him. I just know that we aren't right for each other, contrary to what he may believe. And it's not fair to drag it out. I'll keep you posted.
That's sooo cute that N was so visibly (er, audibly?) excited! Sounds like he feels a little freer now, which hopefully will be a good thing .
As for T, I think you're plan sounds good. Honest and straightforward, but not harsh. Are you going to set it up in an 'I don't want to see you anymore' kinda way, or an 'I'm not interested romantically, but let's be friends' kinda way? Would the latter even be possible considering all his interest-assimilation weirdness?
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Awww! That's adorable that N was so excited! So are you guys going to be exclusive now or is it just kinda play it by ear?
I'm so happy that you're enjoying yourself finally and you've got a cool guy in your life. You so deserve it. By the way, and this is off topic, but is the job still going well?
Elle, I'm going to attempt the "I want to be friends" thing. I'm not sure how that will work. I'm sure he'll cry b/c he cried before when I told him that I wasn't really sure how into this whole thing I am. I feel so bad, but I just know that we aren't right for each other and how long am I supposed to prolong it? It will just make it worse.
NCShopper, I wouldn't say exclusive since we're so far away from each other, but neither of us have a desire to date anyone else and we can't wait until he moves back here. I'm sitting here grinning like an idiot just thinking about it. He's so freaking adorable, I can't even stand it!!!
And the job is still good. I'm really busy, but I like it. Thanks for asking!
Elle, I'm going to attempt the "I want to be friends" thing. I'm not sure how that will work. I'm sure he'll cry b/c he cried before when I told him that I wasn't really sure how into this whole thing I am. I feel so bad, but I just know that we aren't right for each other and how long am I supposed to prolong it? It will just make it worse.
Eeeew! That TOTALLY reminds me of this guy I dated (the one who took on my interests too)--are you sure you're not dating one of my ex boyfriends? Ugh. I don't know what it is about boys crying over a girl, but I cannot handle it. Especially when you're just dating. I mean, ugh! It is so unattractive.
(I probably sound like THE biggest bitch ever, but seriously, once the tears started rolling, I'd be soooooooooooooo outta there!)
NylaBelle wrote: Elle, I'm going to attempt the "I want to be friends" thing. I'm not sure how that will work. I'm sure he'll cry b/c he cried before when I told him that I wasn't really sure how into this whole thing I am. I feel so bad, but I just know that we aren't right for each other and how long am I supposed to prolong it? It will just make it worse. Eeeew! That TOTALLY reminds me of this guy I dated (the one who took on my interests too)--are you sure you're not dating one of my ex boyfriends? Ugh. I don't know what it is about boys crying over a girl, but I cannot handle it. Especially when you're just dating. I mean, ugh! It is so unattractive. (I probably sound like THE biggest bitch ever, but seriously, once the tears started rolling, I'd be soooooooooooooo outta there!)
Oh gawd, yes!!! I totally flipped out when he started crying. I mean, seriously, it's been a month and we're not exclusive at all! Hello!!! I saw my ex cry over me a few times, but we were seriously together, so it wasn't that bad. And he was drunk. Weird things happen when one is drunk.
But yeah, I'm totally freaked out by how emotionally needy he is. I can't take it. It's like my ex was one extreme and this guy is the other. Where's the happy medium??!! Oh wait, that would be N. Teehee!! I'm giddy.
Hey, I haven't been posting on this before, but I just wanted to say I'm glad things are going so well with N! May will be here before you know it.
And also, whoa, I can really see why T would be freaking you out. That is some seriously clingy, annoying behavior. I hope he can keep his emotions together when you finally break it off.
NylaBelle-I love your updates!! You are being so straight up in your approach with T. Good for you! I hope you and N. have a happily ever after! You certainly deserve it after all you've been through! (BTW - you are darling in your TS posts! glad you got a DigCam!)
Scarlett, I fear the actual moment that I break the news to him. I feel like he's going to be a total basketcase. Apparently (and this freaks me out even more), he told everyone at his job that I was his girlfriend after we had been out on a two or three dates. AAAHHHHHH!!!
KE, thanks. I hope things work out, too. Time will tell, I suppose. I seriously am counting the days until May.
Hmmm...maybe you should break the news to him in a public place? That would be easier on you than being alone somewhere, I think. He might keep his tear ducts in check a little more if there are other people around.