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Dooney & Bourke

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well, i wasn't actually SNOOPING ... on xmas morning i was doing laundry and picked up a pair of my bf's jeans to wash and began emptying the pockets. among the ramdom contents (bottlecaps, change, lighter ((he doensn't smoke??)) i found these 2 rings. the same ones -- one was bigger than the other. they were wide bands that had a thick stripe of silver in the middle bordered on each side by thinner stripes of copper maybe. they could have been wedding bands (def. not engagement style). normally, i would have just asked him what they were, but being that it was xmas morning and we hadn't opened gifts yet, i put everything back in the pants pockets and left them hanging over the arm of the couch and decided to wait and see if there was a suprise coming that had to do with these rings. nothing. i went back to check the pants again later and he had emptied the pockets (unusual for him to do). i also looked through all his drawers and secret hiding places for the rings -- to no avail. so what do i do now? i really want to know what they were. the next day i kind of hinted about it -- i asked him why he has such a collection of lighters when he doesn't smoke and made a point of letting him know that had just found a light blue lighter in that specific pair of pants but i don't think he got it. how long should i wait to ask him about it? (i dont' think that not saying anything is an option) it's killing me to wait - - and the thing is that they could have been some kind of washers or random parts for like plumbing or something.


 


 


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i finally asked him about it last night.  i guess they were rings he had bought and given one to an ex (this was about 8 years ago), and when they broke up she gave it back to him.  he has had them in some box in our attic, not knowing what to do with them b/c he thinks they are too cool to get rid of (i guess they were made on some ship and they are pieces of bronze and stainless hardware that are pressed together, blah blah blah, this is the kind of stuff that he gets excited about...) 


 we have friends who are getting married in march and the guy and my bf were talking about rings and how he wants to make wedding bands for him and his fiance.  my bf mentioned these rings he has and had gotten them down to show to the guy. 


i tried to pout a little and ask him why i didn't know about it and accuse him of being up to something, but gave it up quickly b/c it wasn't worth it.  he said he didn't tell me b/c it was weird, (which it was for him to have these rings), but his story is logical and legitimate.  and now that i think about it,  i guess i probably have seen the rings before b/c the box they were in used to be in our office and i KNOW i have snooped through it on more than one occassion.


 




-- Edited by e_doli at 12:17, 2006-01-03



-- Edited by e_doli at 12:25, 2006-01-03

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What do you think they were? Do you think he could be proposing? Do you think it has something to do with another girl? I'm confused... (per usual! )

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Dooney & Bourke

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i really don't know. it's not another girl (99.9% sure of this). i'm wondering about proposing but that's unlikely too, since we have talked about how neither of us needs to get married (and why would he have these random wedding band like things if he were proposing?) if it were something he was holding for a friend i would probably know about it ...

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could you wait until after NYE (since a lot of boys propose on NYE) and then just flat out ask him.  you weren't really snooping, you were just cleaning out his pockets. 



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shopgirl82 wrote:


   you weren't really snooping, you were just cleaning out his pockets. 

I agree with this statement.  and with waiting until after NYE to ask him about it.

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I would also do this.  Wait and see what he does, and if nothing then definatly confront him.  If you do his laundry and find something, you have every right to ask what it is. 

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Dooney & Bourke

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you're right, but waiting until new year's is going to kill me ... only a few more days.


i know it was a totally legit reason to be in his pockets (most of the reason i am so fervent about the cleaning out pockets when i do laundry).



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im going to be the odd one out on this. 


does your bf LIVE with you?  if not, my first (and worst) thought was it sounds like a wedding band. 


if he lives with you, I would wait til after NYE's to see if it some kind of promise ring (my 'couple' friends have this and they match so it could be like this)


If he doesn't live with you, i wouldn't think 99% positive of anything.  Trust your instincts.  I've lived with my BF for about 4 yrs now (it's complicated) and I know when he is trying to hide things, and i know he hides things that i just have never wanted to find out the whole truth about before until it drove me nuts (not cheating, but other stuff).  I do find it strange he has many lighters if he doesn't smoke..


Good luck!



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Does he know what size ring you wear, did you try the smaller one on?  Since they were just loose in his pocket that makes me think maybe he found them???  But I would think he would say something.  If he bought them I think it's unusual for them to not be in boxes.  Do you two talk about marriage?  I agree with the other girls that you should wait till after new years but wow what a strange thing to find...two of them too!  I think I would have been bad and said I found them just because I have no patience but I've ruined many a suprise that way...

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e doli, what happened? did you talk to him? is everything all right with you two? i hope he had a reasonable explanation for all of this...

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Whew.  Glad it was nothing to worry about!

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glad it all turned out to be okay. *s*

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Cricket wrote:


Whew.  Glad it was nothing to worry about!

Ditto! :)

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Oh good!! Glad that was nothing to worry about!!

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