I learned to speak very little, because I always reminded myself "anything I say WILL be used against me" he was very successful in breaking my spirit.
omg! That's exactly what I did. I hardly ever talked around him because I was afraid of how he would use it... Weird how these patterns repeat themselves over and over again, huh?
You know what else is weird? How so many of us have gone through similar things but I bet almost every single one of us felt like we were completely alone while we were going through it. I hope I always realize that someone out there will understand me, no matter how crazy/odd/sad/angry I am.
Mia, I am sorry for everything that you are going through, and you are a brave and strong person. The alarm that is going off for me is that you guys live an ocean apart, but it sounds like you guys fight a lot for not seeing each other that often. I mean, it would seem like the frequency would only increase if you guys did eventually live together. I just think that you deserve way better.
I learned to speak very little, because I always reminded myself "anything I say WILL be used against me" he was very successful in breaking my spirit.
Wow! This actually made me tear up a little because it brought back such bad memories. I remember thinking, "Well, there's no point in speaking up because he'll insist that I'm wrong and whatever I say will come back to haunt me anyway."
Mia - Big hugs to you. You are so brave to post about this issue. To me, the fact that you are thinking about it, be pretty honest with yourself, and talking about it with others is a good sign that you are getting ready to make changes for the better.