Sometimes I get so annoyed that my bf is so nice to girls- they all end up liking him and thinking they have some sort of special connection with him, and he is just oblivious. He is not really a flirt in the traditional sense, but he's cute and friendly and personable, so girls like him. It really makes me jealous sometimes. For example, his ex-gf from hs (its been over 4 years and she cheated on him repeatedly), i'm pretty sure is still in love with him. This girl that was in a band with him is still in love with him, i'm pretty sure (she was so annoying- he has NO feelings for her, but she would always look at me strange when I was there and write in her damn ONLINE JOURNAL about him, and she basically told him she liked him, and he said no way- nicely), this 28 year old manager (he was 21) at his old bartending job KISSED him at the bar a year ago (he pushed her away, but STILL!!!) because she liked him, this girl that he is friends with introduced him to her parents at a show (music) of hers while she practiced and they thought he was her new bf (her bf was another guy at the show, but they just assumed/wanted my bf to be her new bf i guess...) Now its like i'm jealous of every girl he is just friends with, espec. if they're gorgeous, because i'm worried they'll all end up liking him. He assures me i have nothing to worry about, but I still wish he wasn't so friendly with girls. I'm so closed up to guys when I have a bf- if i was that friendly with guys, I'm sure he wouldn't like it! Ok- rant over.
I don't really know what to say to that, except that I know how you feel. But just think... your bf is such an awesome guy and all the girls love him, and he loves YOU. That must mean you're pretty awesome yourself (we all know you are ). Don't worry about those other girls, they've got nothing on you, Lynnie!!
If you have been with your boyfriend for a long time and are in a serious relationship, I don't see anything wrong with asking him to cool down his behavior to girls because he is (perhaps unknowingly) sending out the "I'm available" vibe with his friendliness and this is inappropriate for a man in a serious love relationship. It doesn't matter if he knows he does this or not, what matters is the result....and when enough girls are getting the wrong message, that's a sign that you are right.
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