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Karina · Chanel

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Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

I don't think this is what you want to hear, but I think the position is gone. If they kept it open that long after you interviewed, and are still continuing to interview other people, and deleted your message without responding, it sounds like they sort of want someone else. Do you even want the job in that case? Look, FWIW, I think maybe your pregnancy and all those problems with the weirdo manager gave you a bit of a reputation problem. Which sucks and is unfair, but it's possible to overcome it.

So what would I do? Honestly, I would figure out the culture and how to look like I'm fitting in. If they want someone who doesn't have a personal life and doesn't complain about mistreatment, that's not something I can change, so I would probably eventually move on. But first, I would figure out what they can give me (training, certification, etc), what sort of things they reward (late nights as opposed to early mornings, playing on the company softball team), and what people can be my allies in battles there and in the future (your next employer wants to know you had good workign relationships that will benefit your new employer too).

I think you know all this, deep down. It just seems like maybe you're stuck on things being fair and acting right so they will treat you right. There is no magic phrase you can say. Theyr'e going to be shitty regardless. The issue is what you can do to take care of yourself. Forget about them. They are bad employers and they don't deserve your best, wont' reward your hard work and wouldn't know a good employee if she sat on them. (You haven't done that yet, have you?)

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

Karina,

Have you had the chance to corner this person who you are expecting a response from? Some people need that. They never get around to returning emails or phone calls until you get right up in there face, in their office and ask for an update. That way, they cant lie or avoid the subject when you are face-to-face.

I think you and Nylabelle are in similar situations. Both of you are requesting answers from people who seem to be blowing you off. It is a hard thing to overcome.

I honestly wouldn't write this job off until you hear it from the horse's mouth. As far as I can tell, I still think you have a shot and noone has told you otherwise.

Then again, there is a probably a fine line between dedicated follow-up and annoying this potential boss.

I don't think you are wrong to demand an answer or at least an update. They owe you that.

Are you still looking outside your current company too?

Good luck!

honey · Gucci

i'm torn. on the one hand i don't interpret her deleting the email as a sign that you're not going to get the job. at my job clients have to wait, and most of the time when they email me for an update, i can't help them b/c nothing has changed. however i don't delete the email.

at the same time i kind of agree with dizzy. i know it's hard when you're in the situation, but sometimes you have to ask if it's really worth it. not that you're not qualified for the position, but if you get it is it really going to be the best fit for you, or are you going to end up with more headaches. from personal experience, i've found that sometimes the thing i want is not really the best thing for me.

if you choose to keep pursuing it i wouldn't corner her. that will probably make the situation worse. i would try and find out if the other person has interviewed, and when they interviewed. that way you'll know if it's just you that they're giving the run around, or if she's just slow. good luck!

Karina · Chanel

Well, the problem is that I applied 2 months ago, and I only got an interview 2 weeks ago - HR is VERY VERY slow in our company.... that is why I have been so persistant. The thing was, when I interviewed with M (the person I would be working for), I asked her if there were any other applicants, and she said no.

Also, I am actually overqualified for the position, I just want to take it for the experience to get a better position in the future.

I really want to go speak to M next week... I don't know if its a good/bad idea and what to say.

nunzi182 · Kate Spade

Karina - Did you hear anything?

Karina · Chanel

thanks for asking :)

I actually went to go speak to M yesterday.. she didn't look too thrilled that I went to go bother her but she played it off, and told me that there is another internal candidate applying for the position, as well as an external candidate that will interview in 2 weeks. Oh well. I guess I'll update my resume.