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Dizzy


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Update: thansk y'all. I just needed to get it off my chest... AFter the third person who'd promised to do something with me couldn't really get it together I was just like "sheesh." But hey, this is still better than finding out about my aunt, so really my birthdays are on an upward trend...

I swear, it gets worse every year. Last year, my ex had just moved out and I hadn't had time to make new friends yet, so I just sort of blew it off - oh and my best friend since 1st grade forgot it, which was a nice extra oomph to the gut. The year before that, my mother sent me a card saying "Your aunt (who was more like a mom to me than my mom) is dying of CANCER... I would have told you but you said not to talk to me." That was the worst, but they're all pretty bad.

So this year, I was trying to just let it all go and see what happened. And it's not going so well. One of my friends was goign to take me out, but we're sort of fighting now. My bookclub was going to have a little get together, but they forgot and I felt tacky reminding them. My roommate apparently started to plan a "party" today at about 3 p.m., when he realized that he and everyone else has moot court tomorrow until 10 p.m. (we're in law school) so no one can come because it's so last minute. And my best friend forgot it again.

It wouldnt' be so bad if I didn't make such a big deal about eveyrone else's birthday. I organized a big party for my roommate's last birthday, and made a from-scratch chocolate cake. I've organized parties or get togethers for at least four people in the last year, and played a central role in getting people into at least three more people's birthdays. One guy isn't very popular, and I made all my friends go to his birthday party his wife threw so he wouldn't know it. I am such a sucker. I've spent hundreds of dollars on gifts and drinks for people I barely even know in the past year. And I'm spending my birthday alone. Again. I didn't get one card.

I feel like Charlie Brown.

Ok. I just had to vent a little bit. I am really, really down. And I don't feel like studying tonight.

-- Edited by Dizzy at 11:16, 2005-10-24

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janey831


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awwwww. if i was in your area i would totally plan a party for you! anyhow, since i dont think i am, happy birthday!!

and i totally feel you on the whole birthday thing, i am the same way!

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aww, dizzy, I feel your pain. my birthday is at thanksgiving so it is a downer every single damn year b/c everyone is always preoccupied. as someone who routinely forgets or under-celebrates her dearest friends' birthdays, though, it doesn't mean they don't love you, it just means they're busy. which doesn't make you feel better, I know, but it's not a reflection on you. can you take a long hot bubble bath and go to bed early?


 



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Oh, that sucks!  We'll just have to have an online Stylethread birthday party for you! 


 



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Happy Birthday, Dizzy!!




I think you are a great friend to all those people. I hope they know this. I admire the great advice you give here. Please don't be down.




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yeah, birthdays are just like new year's eve.  i'm sorry you had such a crappy day, but i believe in karma and that all your effort to make others feel special will come back to you. 


happy birthday!!!!!



 



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I'm sorry your birthday kind of sucked.  We'll just celebrate here on stylethread like NC said


  Happy Birthday to you  



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hey dizzy.  if you'll pm me your addy i'd love to send you a birthday card :)

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Dizzy,  too bad we all don't live near you.  We would totally have a party and spoil you for the day!  You have been such a source of inspiration and good advice to so many of us here and we totally appreciate you!  I have had some really sucky birthdays in the past few years, too.  3 birthdays ago, only one friend came to see me.  We went out to dinner and then she just went home!  And it was a Friday night!  I just went home and cried myself to sleep I was so upset.  The past 2 years I had a great time, but only because I initiated it.  Last year, I was in Egypt and this year, I personally invited a bunch of people out to a fondue restaurant.  It was probably kind of tacky to invite people out for my birthday, but a lot of my friends have done it and I don't think anyone else would have thought to get something together.  You are so not alone in this!  I think birthdays just get suckier once you are out of college.

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Oh Dizzy, I'm so sorry you're having a sucky birthday! I'd totally celebrate with you if we were in the same town, moot court or not.


I know what you mean about sucky bdays though. Mine is 6 days before xmas so it's really hard for people to a) remember and b) find the time to celebrate with me. Since my sort of sucky 21st bday (wasn't that bad but I didn't do typical 21st bday stuff), I've planned all my own bday parties. I start telling people about a month in advance to get them prepared. I usually involved dinner and going out downtown somewhere. Sometimes I even do multiple things (with my grown-up friends and then my girls). But it's ALL at my own insistence. If I didn't plan something, I'd be disappointed every year.


Anyway, I'm sending you good wishes for your bday and I hope you know how special you are, even if you don't have some huge celebration this year.



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shopgirl82 wrote:

  yeah, birthdays are just like new year's eve.  i'm sorry you had such a crappy day, but i believe in karma and that all your effort to make others feel special will come back to you.  happy birthday!!!!!  

I couldn't agree more. I'm sorry this one sucked, but others will be better. Happy belated!



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I'm sorry you've had such a tough time with birthdays. I wish you nothing but happy remembrances of all the future ones!

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Happy belated birthday!  I'm sorry you had such a hard time.  I hope today is much better for you!

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So sorry to hear that, Dizzy!! I hate my birthday, too.  People always flake on my birthday, too and it always sucks. I hate birthdays and New Year's Eve.  Too many expectations. You know what I did on my 21st bday? Nothing.  I sat in my house watching TV b/c everyone flaked. I have great friends, I'll tell you.


I hope you have a great day!!!



-- Edited by NylaBelle at 13:02, 2005-10-24

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