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bluediamond


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So, my really good friend (she is my sister in law as well) and I have had a falling out. Things have changed in the last month and its not the same between us anymore. It went from talking no the phone twice a day to being awkward when I see her.
I honestly don’t know what it is…….all I can think of is that she might have gotten upset with me when she asked for help with her brothers wedding and I told here there was only so much I could do. Usually Im all over it and glad to help and would give up my free time to help. But this time I didn’t want to be involved in the wedding planning. I really don’t have the time anymore.
So i noticed that right after that conversation she changed her tone towards me. We have talked since then but again, its just not the same. We have nothing to talk about and our conversations last about 3 minutes.

Im feeling frustrated because I have made an effort to email her and call her and start conversations but she won’t return my calls or if she responds to my emails they are short.
My dilemma is that part of me wants to just ignore her too and wait for her to get over whatever it is that is bothering her and just not worry about it too much but part of me wants to talk to her and find out what’s wrong. BUT!! The pride in my doesn’t want to “give in” first. I feel like she would just blow me off and say “nothing is wrong”. And nothing will change. I don’t know what to do. I do care enough about this friendship to do something about it but I am so scared to approach her because I don’t want her to blow me off. I am just so confused/sad about our falling out because we were soooooo close! Any advice on how I can approach her? What should I do?
Should I email her or call her? What would I say?

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nunzi182


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Just a thought, *maybe* she's actually really busy planning her brother's wedding and just doesn't have the time?

I would bring it up to her. Ask her what's bothering her, or if you've done anything to upset her, because if you did, that wasn't your intention. If says nothing is wrong, then I would just give it some time.

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blubirde


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You definitely should say something if it's important to you, and it sounds like it is. Worst case scenario she blows you off and how is that different than now? At least you can say you gave it your all to try and resolve the friendship. Plus, maybe she's the type of person who doesn't know how to communicate very well and is having a hard time expressing her feelings to you.

I definitely think you should say something and try to resolve the situation since she sounds like an important person to you.

Let us know how it goes!

Oh, and as for the pride, it sucks to swallow it but what sucks more? Loss of pride or loss of friend? (I'm speaking from experience because I have HUGE pride issues.)

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