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Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

I want a man who..

killa · Dooney & Bourke

are we dating the same guys??

Oh my gosh!!

How old are the ones you are dating? I am having the same problem.

blubirde · Chanel

Deuce wrote:

Loves animals, returns phone calls, loves me (acts like it), cares about someone other than himself (or his mother) , is Tall, handsome, funny, intelegent. ok I feel better now. I got off early today and am feeling sorry for myself. I usually work late to prevent these lapses, oh well. You can only see so many movies alone before it gets old. Oh well at least my pitbull likes to cuddle.

Girl, you're singing my song. People in relationships probably want this guy too. I'm not sure he exists or isn't otherwise engaged. Until then, try to explore with guys who at least can make you laugh. That can go a long way towards killing boring alone time.

Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

Guys I date are 26 to 30 ish but are all have the peter pan syndrome. At this point I am not even dating, it has been about 5 mos. I don't think I have not been able to handle men lately. I am thinking about dating again but I do not want to date the exact same guy again and again, which seems to be my m.o. Maybe one of these days, but I could really use a boyfriend right about now..... oh well.

killa · Dooney & Bourke

I hear ya sister.

I have been dating about four guys, and this week I decided not to return any of their calls.

Blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah.

The ages range from 25-29 and none of them know how to ask you on a date. They are all like, "hey, wanna hang out?" or "hey, call me when you and your friends get to the bar and maybe I'll meet you."

Whatever.

I am new to this, but I have never dated anyone who didn't know how to open doors and treat you like a lady.

WTF.

It is very unnerving/disheartening.

WHERE IS HE?!?!

Right?

We are in this together, girl.

Vent anytime. AND let us know if you have any luck ...

-- Edited by killa at 08:49, 2005-09-23

Andrea Julia · Coach

killa wrote:

I hear ya sister. I have been dating about four guys, and this week I decided not to return any of their calls. Blaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaah. The ages range from 25-29 and none of them know how to ask you on a date. They are all like, "hey, wanna hang out?" or "hey, call me when you and your friends get to the bar and maybe I'll meet you." Whatever. I am new to this, but I have never dated anyone who didn't know how to open doors and treat you like a lady. WTF. It is very unnerving/disheartening. WHERE IS HE?!?! Right? We are in this together, girl. Vent anytime. AND let us know if you have any luck ...-- Edited by killa at 08:49, 2005-09-23

I totally feel you! I had 2 guys in my life recently and realized I didn't like either one. I told one of them, but the other I never got the guts to tell and I am stuck hanging out with him tonight because he's coming from far away.

That whole "call me when you and your friends get to the bar and maybe I'll meet you" thing sucks! An even worse version of this is if you don't already have plans with your friends for that night and he's like, "why don't you get a bunch of friends together and I'll get a bunch of friends together and we'll meet up?" So, it's like I have to find a bunch of people to hang out before I can hang out with him? Sounds like a lot of work. And my friends aren't going to want to meet up with a bunch of single guys. They are all married or seriously dating. Do you know how many guys I have ended up not hanging out with because of this group date mentality some guys have? I just tell them I would love to go out and the bar sounds like fun, but I don't really have single girlfriends that are going to want to hang out with a bunch of single guys. I mean, what else can I do? Sometimes that will prompt them to ask me to do something alone, but other times we just never end up going out then.

Here's the guy I want: Two qualities in a guy that are very important to me are reliability and the ability to have great conversations with me. Those might not be the most romantic of things, but when I think about it, the 2 major things that will turn me off of a guy that I liked in the beginning are being unreliable or being boring. I need to know my guy is going to call when he says he will, will do what he says he is going to, will show up when he says he's going to, and that he will always make time for me. I also enjoy great conversation. It hasn't happened in a long time, but I love when I first meet a guy and I just can't get off the phone with him. It will be like a Monday night and getting late, and I will keep telling myself 10 more minutes and then I'll get off the phone, and then "okay. 10 MORE minutes" because I'm just so into talking to him and he's so into talking to me. It hasn't been this way with any guy I've "dated" lately. It's more like "how long do I have to talk to him before I can politely get off the phone?"

Other qualities important are: he has to have a full time job that pays at least as much as mine (I don't want to have to support someone); he has to take things kind of slow in the beginning both emotionally (it sucks when someone that doesn't know you is calling multiple times a day and lavishing praise on you. It seems so insincere) and physically; and he just has to be genuinely caring and loving. He doesn't need to be traditionally good-looking: just clean, neat and put-together.

I don't think I am asking for too much! Seriously, he doesn't need to be good looking, built, tall, rich, of any certain age, or even to have gone to college! I don't know why I have so much trouble finding a guy that meets my criteria!

-- Edited by Andrea Julia at 09:47, 2005-09-23

Mandy · Kate Spade

oh my god, i totally feel you guys on this. i feel like im fabulous and a really great catch so why is it that i have been reduced to simply wanting someone to take me out on a real date (not just meet up at a bar) and who returns phone calls. (also dating people 25-30) grrr.

Deuce · Dooney & Bourke

Andrea Julia wrote:

I need to know my guy is going to call when he says he will, will do what he says he is going to, will show up when he says he's going to, and that he will always make time for me.

I feel the exact same way... I need to find a responsible,intelegent,funny MAN.

My last bf was a real gentleman, opened doors, real dates, walked on the outside of a sidewalk, etc. He was like this the whole 2 years we were together, so I am a bit spoiled about that. Too bad he was totally selfish, and oblivious to the world outside of his stuff. Oh well now I need to find someone hotter than he was. hehe (Just something I do to feel better. I always look at a breakup as a chance to get a much hotter man)

Oh this just in: My best friend (who is happily married to a great man, yuck) is trying to set me up with her horseshoer. He lives an hour away, could be a plus, and he is the cowboy type, my best friend is too but I am totally not. We will see what happens, I haven't decided yet. He has seen my pic but I haven't seen his. Hopefully it is good.