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Andrea Julia


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ugh, i so know what you are talking about.  that totally sucks!  i hate smothering guys!  such a huge turn off.  i think it has to do w/ the whole confidence thing.  i feel like if he's calling so much, then he must have little to no life.  and how boring is that?  make me a little jealous.  make me wait just enough so that when you do call, i get excited!!  good luck girl, hopefully when you see him all will be forgiven!

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Is this the guy you're sending the letter to? I'll work under the assumption it's not because if it is, you've got it covered.


I'd tell him, straight up, that you need space, that he's calling too much, etc., etc., etc. Maybe let him know that you need time to miss him and think about him, too.


It's too bad you're not into him because a boy in a band can be seeeexxxxy!!



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Andrea Julia wrote:

Blubirde, what have I gotten myself into?

Hee - have you seen the stalker songs posts on "entertainment"? That's what this guy reminds me of.


And if you seriously don't like him then just tell him to bugger off. No need to be rude or especially polite. Use the "I'm interested in someone else" line if it makes it easier. No need to be upfront with him if you don't care what he thinks. (This coming from a person who couldn't tell a lie to save her soul. I could try but I would not be successful. I suck at it. Always and forever.)



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Oh, AJ, you are so not into this guy!

For me, bad taste in music is a huge turnoff, let alone if you hate his band (which I'd think expresses a lot about him). And as for all the attention - you just sound really irritated.

I don't think you should bother to see him and prolong things - this doesn't look good. I think maybe the damage has been done.... I'm sorry.

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Andrea Julia


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Andrea Julia wrote:

I am the biggest wimp ever!  I have plans to hang out with this guy on Friday.  One of my friends just called to see if I wanted to go out to celebrate my birthday with her and another friend of ours on Friday because they missed it last week.  So, I called the guy to see if we could switch to Saturday so I can go out with my friends.  He already has plans on Saturday.  I just said ok, we're still on for Friday then.  He was just like wow I can't believe you're still going to hang out with me.  And he was going on and on about it.  And he told me I'm so nice.  Now I really can't break our plans.  I feel terrible, especially since this is probably the only time I will ever hang out with him.  I don't think I'm going to have a good time.  Feel free to tell me how bad I suck!

You don't suck!  Tell him something came up with your friends and that you have no other choice but to hang out with them Friday.  Don't go overboard on the whole "I'm sorry I won't be able to see you" thing.  Just tell him you can't hang out and leave it at that. 


To be honest, AJ, he sounds like a weirdo.  Any guy that is obsessive after meeting you only once doesn't have enough going on in his life.  (That sounds bad--I'm not meaning that as a reflection on you, but just more that guys who become fixated on a girl, any girl, after meeting only once are usually needy and obsessive, and just boring, usually.)  Seriously, if he texts you again and again after not talking to you for an hour, he doesn't have enough going on.  And any guy that is that needy is just going to drive you nuts.


So, long story short, I'd break it off with him now.  Like blubirde said, no need to be super polite, or super rude, but I'd just tell him you're just not that into him.  Or tell him that you're seeing someone new, if you feel the need to tell a white lie to spare his feelings.



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Andrea Julia wrote:

I am the biggest wimp ever!  I have plans to hang out with this guy on Friday.  One of my friends just called to see if I wanted to go out to celebrate my birthday with her and another friend of ours on Friday because they missed it last week.  So, I called the guy to see if we could switch to Saturday so I can go out with my friends.  He already has plans on Saturday.  I just said ok, we're still on for Friday then.  He was just like wow I can't believe you're still going to hang out with me.  And he was going on and on about it.  And he told me I'm so nice.  Now I really can't break our plans.  I feel terrible, especially since this is probably the only time I will ever hang out with him.  I don't think I'm going to have a good time.  Feel free to tell me how bad I suck!
He sounds like a freakin weirdo.  I really think you should cancel your plans with him.  If you hang out with him again he's probably going to smother you even more and the situation will just get worse.  Run!

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