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KaffeeKlatsch · Marc Jacobs

Missed opportunity

crystal · Kate Spade

the love of my life.... hehe, actually who knows if he was, but the last thing he said to me was "i love you" and i've never talked to him since. i wonder sometimes if something happened to him or if he's just an ass.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

my childhood/ teenage years. I seriously rushed through it so fast and now I really regret not taking more time to have fun. Especially re: college. I finished my undergraduate degree in 2 years- what was I thinking?! I completely missed my chance to have fun and to not have a ton of responsability.

Metric · Gucci

As a teen everyone told me I should model but I never took it seriously. I wish I had persued it more intently, I could have built a nice nest egg.

poptart · Coach

Nevermind

-- Edited by Lisa at 17:42, 2005-08-15

blubirde · Chanel

I don't know if I feel I missed out on something or not.

I'm envious of people who studied abroad during college but that wasn't financially feasible for me at the time so it's not something I actually could have done.

There were a lot of cute boys in college I could have explored, um, territory with but for the pesky college bf. But I'm not sure I missed out on anything there really.

It's possible I've missed out on the best years of my thighs. Luckily I couldn't care less, so I suppose that's okay, too.

Lilykind · Hermes

I missed out on exploring with boys. I was too nerdy and icky and pimply for boys to even look at me until I was 16 and then all of a sudden my BF came out of the woodwork (so exploration is kinda not happening now). So I missed out on lots of high school and college boys and just being a free spirit.

But at the same time, I have to look at the bright side. I found my soulmate when I was 16. I'm one of the lucky ones.

shopgirl82 · Chanel

i agree on the studying abroad thing....for my major it just doesn't really happen.

sometimes i feel like i miss out on being 20 something and single at the bars. especially when i'm going home (at eleven ) after a double date (usually with 30 year olds) and see all the girls my age in their cute outfits going to the bars....

but then when i go out with my gfs and go to the bars, i'm glad that i have my bf to go home to. key point.... (not A bf, MY bf).

laken1 · Hermes

When I started college I lived off campus with my 29 yr old boyfriend & I feel that I missed out on the "college" life. I simply went to campus to go to class - period. I was working a lot so I didn't do the whole football weekend thing or have college friends & I'm really sad that I missed out on that.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

Lilykind wrote:

I missed out on exploring with boys. I was too nerdy and icky and pimply for boys to even look at me until I was 16 and then all of a sudden my BF came out of the woodwork (so exploration is kinda not happening now). So I missed out on lots of high school and college boys and just being a free spirit. But at the same time, I have to look at the bright side. I found my soulmate when I was 16. I'm one of the lucky ones.

ditto to this almost exactly. I was so super shy until I was 18, but met my FH just before I turned 16. I def. feel like I missed out on a lot (although I admittedly had a few weak moments- def. not my proudest moments either- but still just not the same.)

Elle · Hermes

I feel like I missed out on being a teenager. I also met my FH very young - 12 to be exact - and started working at 13. I never had any friends in HS because I took as few classes as I could possibly graduate with and graduated early to boot, running off to work as soon as school got out each day. Never went to a dance, rarely a football game, no sports, nada. Man, someone should have told me to lighten up a looooong time ago!

KaffeeKlatsch · Marc Jacobs

Great answers everyone.

My own: I feel as though I am missing out on a lot these days...but I hope to play catch up sometime soon.

greendiamond · Marc Jacobs

Taking a job in Alcapulco Mexico when I was 19. I was offered a great position with a travel firm and decided to pass it up. I should have at least asked more questions.

-gd

atlgirl · Gucci

Probably just experiences in general. I was horribly, horribly shy as a teen, and even into my early twenties. I remember friends in HS being exchange students for a year and I thought that would be fun (I'd been to Europe when I was 13), but I was too scared to do it. Now I think it would have been a great experience.

And...maybe being an Olympic swimmer (haha, probably never was *that* good), but when I was in HS I couldn't participate in sports for the first year (I was a tuition student, that was the rule), and by the time sophomore year rolled around, I was debating between swimming (in which I'd won a trophy and medals - while not on the "officially recognized" team) and another sport. I chose the other sport, because it required less socializing (did I mention that I was paralyzingly shy?!). So...who knows.

My shyness kept me from doing a lot of things / taking a lot of chances that might have been fabulous experiences. I'm still on the cautious side of risk-taking, but as I've matured more, I've found I'm open to more things, but sure wish I could have developed that confidence a wee bit sooner!

kenzie · Chanel

blubirde wrote:

I don't know if I feel I missed out on something or not. I'm envious of people who studied abroad during college but that wasn't financially feasible for me at the time so it's not something I actually could have done.

Me too! I was supposed to go to Japan for the summer before my last year of college to study mass media and pop culture. It would have been so great b/c you got to pick your area of concentration in each category (I'm not sure if I would have done advertising or magazines, probably would have tried both and then for pop culture, I would have done fashion--duh!). It would have been great b/c it would have also completed a minor in Japanese Studies for me that I didn't have time to complete otherwise.

I'm still bitter about not being able to go, but I had rent and bills to pay, so I couldn't.

NCshopper · Hermes

Hmm...interesting question and I've been pondering for the last 15 minutes what I think I missed out on, and to be honest, I don't think there is anything. I was shy in high school, but still had a great time, went across the country to go to college, joined a sorority, studied abroad in Australia, dated some guys, married my husband, who is my best friend, and so I don't have any regrets. It doesn't mean that I don't make or haven't made mistakes that I regret, but there isn't anything that I regret not doing. I'm a lucky girl.

rocky · Coach

I always regretted not learning to surf earlier, I have been in San Diego for 10 years and I just started learning 2 years ago (Blue Crush might have had something to do with it hehe). It is totally true that the older you get, the harder it is to learn something. I can barely stand on my board, and I wish I could be carving like the other people already.

Other than that I guess I wish I had dormed in college and studied abroad as well. I want to go to Europe so bad it hurts, and it wouldv'e been the perfect opportunity to do it for cheap and really have time to be engrossed in the culture.

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

i missed out on talking to this oh so cute boy last friday. so frustrating. the night's over, we're walking to our cars, up this hilly sidewalk (oh reference for the cali girls: we were @ hermosa beach), and he's walking down the sidewalk and we just connected and stared at each other for a good minute but then the moment passed, i walk up, he walks down and not a word was spoken.

i've been calling him "eye contact boy" and bothering my friends about him (asking stupid q's like do you ever think i'll see eye contact boy again? jeez leweez, i am such a cheeseball!). the thing is i was out w/ work friends (as opposed to my friends i usually go out w/) and by that time of night i was just not really on top of it so that probably contributed to it all.

oh well. if it ever happens again, i'll ask for directions, what time it is, whatever. so it's a lesson learned. c'est la vie and au revoir to eye contact boy!

gingembre1 · Kate Spade

1. I regret getting back together with my college bf after the first time we broke up. I missed out on getting closer to my girlfriends from freshman year. And now I have very few female friends. But on the other hand, those girls have way too much drama, and the friends I do keep in touch with are people that I'll keep in touch with forever.

2. I missed out on taking full advantage of my last time in France. I was depressed, due to many things, and lived like a hermit. I also wish that I'd re-applied for the english assistant program for this last year.

3. I missed out on a lot of learning. I wish now that I had applied myself a little more vigorously to my studies. But then again, I didn't socialize much (if at all) in high school, and I think that I developed socially in college. And I think that I'll also appreciate grad school more when I eventually make my way back to school.

lovelygirl · Kenneth Cole

I regret losing touch with a lot of my close friends over the years. I used to be really bad about keeping in touch and once I moved across the country for law school, a lot of my close friendships fell by the wayside. I feel really sad about it because I've tried to resurrect a few of those friendships but I feel like it's too late now. The closeness isn't really there anymore. It's been bumming me out lately.

I was also really shy and insecure in hs/college (still shy to a certain extent but much less insecure). I wish I had given myself more credit. I think I would have been less hard on myself and gone after more opportunities (boys!) I really wanted.