STYLETHREAD -- LET'S TALK SHOP!

Andrea Julia · Coach

What is one thing you fear right now?

jacL · Coach

I fear getting old. Not growing older, that I embrace, but I have always been afraid of elderly people and of becoming one.

janey831 · Kate Spade

AJ- that's one of my fears too. another one: not finding someone that loves me as much as i love them. basically, fear of being alone. on the other hand, its a scary dating world out there!

Maddie · Coach

Defintely being alone. I'm 19 and I know I totally shouldn't be worried about this. It's just that I recently met this AMAZING guy who I'm pretty sure isn't into me and I feel like if I can't have him, no one else will ever compare. He totally blows anyone I've ever dated or even known out of the water. I know I'm being incredibly dramatic and it's not a big deal but it's just caused me to really worry about never finding the right person who loves me too.

KaffeeKlatsch · Marc Jacobs

Never recovering from the painful divorce I am going through. And never being able to be the mom and person I wanted to be for my son.

ILoveChoo · Hermes

I am afraid that I will never figure out exactly what I want to do with my life, and that I will always feel bored and empty becasue of it.

kenzie · Chanel

That I will never, ever find and job and thus, never ever have a career and I will be stuck working in sh*& jobs like the one I'm in forever, no matter how much education I have. I fear having an MFA and an MBA and still being a receptionist. I'm 26 and I feel like I should be four years into a career by now and I'm not. I feel way behind the rest of the world.

ranchera20 · Marc Jacobs

That one day I am going to wake up and find out someone very important is gone. Like a family member or a friend.

member · Hermes

My biggest fear is definitely that something bad is going to happen to someone i love - like either my boyfriend, or someone in my family. I live w/my boyfriend, and I worry so much about something happening to him it's almost neurotic.

I also fear that I'm never going to end up having a job I love and am passionate about. I fear I'm going to be stuck working a 9-5 job the rest of my life just to pay the bills and I'll be unsatisfied.

kenzie · Chanel

shopchicago33 wrote:

My biggest fear is definitely that something bad is going to happen to someone i love - like either my boyfriend, or someone in my family. I live w/my boyfriend, and I worry so much about something happening to him it's almost neurotic.

I have this fear, too. Not just with my bf, but with my mom. She's basically the only family I have. I have no siblings, my dad is in and out of my life, my mom has no brothers or sisters (so I have no aunts, uncles or cousins) and both of her parents have passed away. So, I have this completely insane fear of losing her. If she doesn't call me when I was expecting her to, I start to freak out.

rlutz · Chanel

I fear never being able to have kids....

I fear my mom getting sick again and dying...

blubirde · Chanel

I'm kinda like you AJ. Except different.

It goes in stages:

1) I fear falling for someone. Like really, truly falling for someone.

2) I fear that I'm falling for someone now (but I'm too unsure to actually explore my own feelings on this one.

3) I fear the person I think I might be afraid of falling for (got all that?) doesn't feel the same way.

4) I fear that if it doesn't work out, which I feel it inevitably won't, I'll be even worse about this whole "fear" thing than I already am.

5) I fear what kind of person I'll be if I never fall for anyone.

Whew - that took some time! (Honestly I walk around these days with this pit in my stomach, afraid I'm falling for someone and afraid he isn't falling for me. How does this shit happen??)

OH!!! And I'm afraid of snakes. Yep, snakes.

cat · Marc Jacobs

I am afraid I will never get over my ex bf. I broke up with him 2 and a half years and have not been in a relationship since.I realized recently that every man I meet I compare to him, and things nerver go anywhere with guys I meet because I am still hung up on my ex. I am still in love with him and I have been going to where he works and flirting with him (he flirts back) but I know i should just let him go.But I am sooo afraid I will never fall in love with anyone else.

Also I am afraid of mimes.I have this irrational fear that a mime is going to murder me.I have nightmares where one stabs me to death.

Good lord do I have issues or what.
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-- Edited by cat at 17:45, 2005-08-11

sage · Dooney & Bourke

shopchigago33, I hear you!! I am always afraid my SO will get mugged on his way to the store(we live across the street from a mall) I usually go with him, this makes no sense since I would be no help against knife wielding maniacs. I just think he is less likely to get attacked if there are two of us. I told my sister about this and she said she feels the same way. Let me just point out, to more clearly illustrate how silly this fear is, we do not live in a high crime area, I don't even remember the last time there was any kind of mugging, attack, etc. My fears are basically unfounded but I always think-"It could happen"

I also have an insane fear of bears. Like when we go camping I am always wondering if there are bears lurking in the woods, again, maybe there has never been a bear attack in my area, but there are woods,and where there are woods there are bears. So,,,,it could happen!!

Oh, one more -I am afraid of leaving something on(ie iron, coffee pot, stove) and burning the place down, or leaving the water running and flooding the place.(this is an OCD thing though)

That was fun!! And kind of therapeutic!! thanks for asking the question, AndreaJulia!

-- Edited by sage at 10:19, 2005-08-11

greendiamond · Marc Jacobs

I fear that I am not going to use my MBA the way I should. That I will become comfortable in a less-than job and not live up to my potential. Most of my fears are career/education based.

-gd

Elle · Hermes

ILoveChoo wrote:

I am afraid that I will never figure out exactly what I want to do with my life, and that I will always feel bored and empty becasue of it.

Ditto. And therefore I fear that I will waste my entire life looking for that something I like to do and when I find it, it will be too late.

I am afraid that I want kids, and at the same time that I don't want kids.

I am always afraid I left something on/open when I leave the house (garage, hair straightener, coffee pot, etc).

poptart · Coach

cat wrote:

I am afraid I will never get over my ex bf.

Ditto.

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

i'm afraid that no matter how much i learn or how much of a better person i become--i'll still never find that special someone.

but as i'm typing this out i think...nah...how could that possibly be? it'll work out. it'll work out for all of us. i know it will....i think.

NCshopper · Hermes

I'm afraid of never living up to my potential and disappointing everyone who ever thought that I'd go far in life. I'm afraid that by the time I get around to having kids, I won't be able to. I feel like I'm supposed to put off having kids in order to build my "career" but I'm afraid that by doing that I might not be able to have kids.

However, I'm also afraid that when we do decide to have kids that I'll screw them up big time.

Farrah · Marc Jacobs

I fear that other people will think that I am a flake because I have decided to switch careers again and go back to school to get into the field that I originally majored in when I started my undergrad in 1994. After graduating with a degree in theatre and studying HR for the past 2 1/2 years I have decided to go back into the medical field and get my nursing degree. It makes perfect sense to me because I always wanted to be a doctor and help people, but the pressure was too great when I was younger and I couldn't hack it in my classes. Now that I have gone back to school and I know how well I really can do I want to become a nurse so I can go back to what I really love - medicine and helping people. (My bf calls me Focker, hee-hee.) You'll all laugh when I say this, but I actually got into HR because I thought that I would be helping people. Big laugh there. I am actually screwing people over most of the time. Being nice to their faces when I know that they are getting laid off or fired, it is totally horrible. Anyway, I digress...

I also fear that my bf will never propose to me. I can't imagine living the rest of my life without him, but I also do not want to be his gf when I am 40 years old if you catch my drift.