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poptart · Coach

Today's poll: How old is too old? UPDATE

janey831 · Kate Spade

RE: Today's poll: How old is too old?

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

i don't get it--too old for what exactly? oh wait like how old is too old for a guy you're thinking of dating? for me it depends on a couple of completely superficial factors (in the beginning at least). like if a guy's older, but successful and hot, he'd probably get my attention regardless of his age. for example, i would have absolutely no problem dating brad pitt or george clooney (oh so big of me, huh? )

seriously though, age is just a number and one of my best friends is 26 and marrying someone who's 40 and they're so in love and he's such a great guy and at the end of it all, that's really what it's all about, right?

Grace · Dooney & Bourke

10 years older, 5 years younger (unless 5 years puts you below 21)

ILoveChoo · Hermes

what does age matter? as long as he's not older than your father (cause that would just be awkward...), go for it!

poptart · Coach

ILoveChoo wrote:

what does age matter? as long as he's not older than your father (cause that would just be awkward...), go for it!

Too funny! You hit the nail on the head, though! My Dad is dead, but this guy is older than my Mom (who admittedly had me when she was verrrry young) which is kinda freakin me out. I went out with him once, then told him I couldn't deal with it (he doesn't even look his age, so I didn't know at first), but he's trying to convince me ...

I have no idea what to do.

NCshopper · Hermes

I say 45 is old enough. But it really doesn't matter, as long as it doesn't weird you out. My husband is 9 years older than I am, and its something that neither of us really give any thought to, unless he mentions a song he loved in high school or something and we laugh about the fact that I was in kindergarten at the time!

As long as you are at similar points in your life (ie, both want kids, or don't want kids, etc), I don't think it matters all that much.

Lilykind · Hermes

I am not the person to ask....starting dating 28 yr. old BF at 16...now I'm 20 and he's 32 (a really young looking one, but I digress). I know I'd feel weird about dating a man over 35. But then I'm not even old enough to drink and dating someone much older than me has put me in rather compromising situations in the past.

Since you're 28 though, you don't have to worry about that. I said that any man is fair game...as long as he's not twice your age.

janey831 · Kate Spade

lilykind-how did your bf feel abt you being 16, when he was 28? did he initially have a problem with it or did you? just curious..

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

Have fun whatever your age.

-- Edited by Dizzy at 17:48, 2005-07-28

Elle · Hermes

That depends on a lot of factors - what your lifestyles are, what baggage you both have (children, ex-factor, etc), and your general interests and chemistry more than a certain # of years.

If it were me (and I wasn't, ya know, engaged and stuff ) I would feel comfortable dating someone up to about 36 or so (I'm 21) because so many of my friends are in their 30's that it wouldn't bother me. Translating that to you at 28, that would be about 43 or so. I also think that the older you are, the less the age difference matters - that same 15 years is a drop in the bucket when you're 72 and he's 87!

As long as it feels like the playing field is even, why not try?

gingembre1 · Kate Spade

My parents are 12 years apart, so that's always been my guide. I have, however, dated one guy who was 16 years older (never doing that again) and a guy who was 13 years older (never doing that again either). BUT my reasons for not dating someone that much older again is that in both cases they were both more immature than me. The way I figure, if they're still single at a certain age, there must be something wrong that's kept them off the market... If a very hot, successful, wonderful man came along who was, say, between 10-12 years older than me, I certainly wouldn't say no.

dc · Dooney & Bourke

It's about the guy, not the age. My parents are also 12 years apart (Dad older), and my Dad is a big baby! When they married at 24 and 36, he was just mature enough for marriage, according to Mom. That's just one example...

I dated a guy who was 43 when I was 24. And a guy who was 35 when I was 26. And then I also dated a guy who was 25 when I was 31. It just depends on the person. In some of these cases, the age or maturity difference didn't work out. But I don't generally rule people out. It's about chemistry, not a number. It's hard enough to find someone you mesh with, you know?

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blubirde · Chanel

I agree with everyone else who says it's not about age. 'Cause it's not. If you like him, regardless of anything else, don't worry about it.

I say go out with him again and try and work through it to see if it'll work or not. How sweet is it that he's trying to convince you? Aw, maybe give him another shot. How old is he btw?