I am SO sick of approaching a cute boy and chatting him up only to have him ask my friend for her number. What is so wrong with ME? Yeh I'm a lil chunky chub a lub but I've got a killer smile and gorgeous eyes and a perky chest and I'm friendly and outgoing and I've got a good head on my shoulders. Any guy would be lucky as hell to date me but they won't even give me a chance! Honestly, I've been working like crazy on boosting my confidence again but crap like this just sets me back and I have to wonder if I'm only kidding myself with the killer smile blah blah blah luckycakes bit. It's so upsetting and frustrating and dumb.
Venting is over. TY.
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... stick 'em down your shirt and make your boobs look bigger!
Wow! I'm so sorry for you Rica. I know how damaging that can be to someone's confidence. The same thing used to happen to me when I was in the dating pool; except I had no confidence in myself!
I don't know if this is an appropriate thing to do since it's been awhile since I've dated, but maybe you could ask a guy for his number before he has the chance to ask for your friend's number. So even if he was interested in your friend at first, you can win him over with your killer personality (and smile and eyes and everything else.) You seem like a great person, but men are immature and it takes awhile for them to realize this.
aw rica, i've totally been there. when i was in college i would take my cousin w/ me to parties & stuff & all the guys i talked to were like "do u think ur cousin would date me?" sure she has huge boobs & i'm flat as a board, but i'm a good person too!! now that college is over i've been lucky enough to meet guys who value more than boobs, hehe! dunno where ur at in life, but maybe the guys u r meeting are too immature? try going for older guys cuz i'm sure they will appreciate all you have to offer!
Don't be so hard on yourself! You sound cute to me! If those guys want the stereotypical blonde bimbo then they're the ones missing out and you are a lot better without them. I agree with the others. It just takes more time for guys to mature and come to their senses.
Ooh, I HATE that feeling! I've definitely been there before and there are two things to remember: 1) Don't let it take its toll on your self esteem and 2) chances are that you're not going to meet the man of your dreams at a bar (I'm assuming that's what you're talking about here). Seriously, you meet guys that you have something in common with when you're doing the things you love to do, so don't worry if some jack*ss at a bar or a party wants to go out with your friend. From your other posts I've read, you have a hell of a sense of humor and great self-esteem, so don't let some loser at a bar make you feel like you're not pretty/funny/skinny/whatever enough.