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Christine · Coach

RE: So upset...

Mandy · Kate Spade

gypsyfreak wrote:

I just feel that there was no closure to this relationship and think I at least deserve an explanation beyond "I just don't feel the same way anymore." Would it be wrong for me to go see him and talk to himabout it in person? Or should I just let it go and move on? I really don't know what to do.

I totally understand your thinking here. I always feel like I need some sort of closure and that I need to know the whole story. I find what I have made up in my head is usually worse than the truth anyway. I think that if you think it will help you, go talk to him but not if its going to make you hurt worse.

sage · Dooney & Bourke

Hi gypsyfreak- Just wanted to let you know I am sorry you are going through this, and like everyone has said, vent all you want. No one here is going to think you are moaning too much. Sending a ((hug)) your way.

atlgirl · Gucci

Oh gypsyfreak, I so understand your feelings and I'm sorry for how you are feeling!!

I think if you think it will help you, then go talk to him. You seem to have a very mature viewpoint about this and wouldn't be going over there for any drama...just know that if you two have a discussion, it might still not give you the sense of closure or "fairness" you are looking for. We don't always know the reasons why things end up the way they do, unfortunately.

You're not bitching or moaning too much at all - quite the contrary! Chin up - you'll get through this and be the stronger for it. *hugs*

Oh, and remember - just because he chose a disrespectful way to break up with you, that doesn't mean the relationship wasn't worthwhile. We learn from every interaction with others, and especially in relationships. Don't let his poor behavior make you feel that you wasted the last few years of your life. Learn from it (both good and bad) and know that you'll be a better, smarter person for the next relationship...whenever you're ready for it. *s*

lynnie · Chanel

aw I'm sorry. You totally deserve to see him in person- even if it causes more harm then good, I would want the in-person explanation. It sounds like he's trying to run away, causing as little harm as possible to himself.

luckylily · Gucci

Gypsyfreak - I am so sorry. You deserve much better than this. I hate it for you that he didn't have the balls to talk to you to your face. Also, he should have brought this stuff much earlier, so that you could at least make an attempt to work through the issues together.

{{{{hugs}}} take care of yourself.

fashionista L · Coach

You don't sound desperate or needy at all!! I would be the same way, I would be a blubbering mess!! I am so sorry he is such a jerk as to break it off over the phone and never tell you that he was feeling that way, I'm in my first serious relationship too and I know how it feels to be broken up with. It makes you feel lost and confused, you will make it through though. I'm sure you have learned a lot from this relationship and you have emerged a better person. I know it is hard to think of now, but you will meet another guy who will love and appreciate you, it will happen again. Don't give up hope!!

joy0302 · Kate Spade

I am very sorry for you. I agree with the others though that he is probably just not secure enough to be with someone who is trying to better themselves. Unless it is really going to give you closure I wouldn't give him the pleasure of getting to see you again! Also, just look at it this way if you think that another girl may have talked him into breaking up with you-if he was that easy to steal away he was not good enough for you anyway. (Let the hoochie have him and he will probably do the same to her) Sorry just trying to lift your spirits, if possible.

Just know that we are here for you when you need to chat and that you will get over him in time, although it will be hard for a while, esp. with so little explanation. Just think to the day when you have your law degree and are doing so good. You will run into him somewhere and he will only wish that he had a chance with you!! Until that day, post when you feel down and we will be here!

BargainQueen · Marc Jacobs

Im so sorry.

In addition to all the great advice from the pp's, treat yourself to a pint of your fav. ice cream & a girl's night out this weekend. It helps a lot when you're around others who care about you.

(((hugs)))