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blubirde · Chanel

i'm officially off my rocker *tentative update*

rocky · Coach

RE: i'm officially off my rocker

sfcaligirl · Dooney & Bourke

i'm dying here. this is too funny.

okay, you seem to have gone a little crazy .... but i think you can get back "on your rocker" by just calling/emailing him and asking him out yourself! you seem like a pretty straightforward girl... if you like him, let him know. i'm sure he'd be absolutely thrilled if you asked him to hang out. good luck! no more math equations! hahaha....

Kari · Dooney & Bourke

I am so sorry for laughing outloud at you. But I do this stuff all the time!! I analyze and over-analyze and do the statistics and and the whole nine yards.

I never realized how crazy it all really was until I read your post. Stop the madness!! Just kidding. I am still kind of confused. Are you into this boy? Or are you not into this boy, but still bummed that he isn't asking you out as much?

blubirde · Chanel

Kari wrote:

I am so sorry for laughing outloud at you. But I do this stuff all the time!! I analyze and over-analyze and do the statistics and and the whole nine yards.
I never realized how crazy it all really was until I read your post. Stop the madness!! Just kidding. I am still kind of confused. Are you into this boy? Or are you not into this boy, but still bummed that he isn't asking you out as much?

Don't apologize for laughing, Kari. If I weren't the one two branches shy of the cuckoo's nest, I'd be laughing my ass off too!

But to answer your question, I didn't like him before I met him but now I like him.

sfcaligirl - you really think i should ask him out? i wouldn't normally have a problem with that (i've done it successfully several times before) but in all of those cases there was nothing at stake. with this guy i might be a tiny bit crushed if he says no. of course, technically at least i'd know what he was thinking. hmmm... maybe i will.

Andrea Julia · Coach

This is hilarious, blubirde! I just read your survey on MySpace and now this. You are a funny chick! I do this kind of stuff, too. Like I will go through my phone and try to analyze a new guy's calling pattern. I make charts in my mind, like last Monday he called at 7pm but on Wednesday he called at 10:30 and he didn't call at all on Tuesday and Thursday...so will he call tonight? I've never thought about doing percentages though. I think you just helped me find a new aspect to my natural obsessiveness and overanalyzation.

Hopefully we are not both off our rockers. I think it just gives us something to do. It allows us to take something we are already obsessing about and make it into a game because there's only so many times you can think, "is he going to ask me out?" over and over. Also, I think it is a way of trying to predict the future by analyzing the past, which sometimes works and sometimes doesn't.

crystal · Kate Spade

WOW! those calculations are very impressive! i would be happy to create some graphs for you, but unfortunately i just installed MS Office 2003 & all my programs are crashing upon entry. i think u've presented the data just fine tho & can come to only one conclusion...

YOU ARE OFF YOUR ROCKER!!

hehe, j/k girl, u know i love you! actually i think that ur being very logical about this & there is nothing wrong w/ a little OCD behavior. and sfcaligirl is right, ASK HIM OUT!! u already admit he asked u out a grand total of 9 times so why would he turn u down?? sure he cancelled once (making it an 11% cancellation rate, not too bad), but everyone makes mistakes!! give him another chance girl, ask him out & worst comes to worst he says no & then u know where u stand & can stop obsessing!! good luck!!

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

blubirde if you're off your rocker then that is the place to be because you are an absolute treasure. seriously, you're totally smart, completely hilarious and just a blast to be around. and i only have the pleasure of your company via cyberspace!

on a serious note though...and take this for whatever it's worth (which could be a whole lot of nothing)--don't ask him out. sometimes guys lose interest once they know a girl's interested in them and vice versa. it's totally idiotic and completely counter productive but it has been known to happen. if i were you i'd let him do a little bit of the legwork right now. he's the one that cancelled, he's the one that's got some making up to do. so give him a chance to do it. you'll find out his intentions sooner or later, right now just relax and try to take your mind off it. good luck and keep us posted!

lynnie · Chanel

hehehe, i love your OCD posts. While the rates look positive, I would hesitate on asking him out just yet since he canceled on you last. Like esquiress said, the ball is in his court now. Keep it casual for now, now is the perfect time to get to know each other and flirt!

theotherjess · Chanel

blubirde, you are too funny! This sounds completely like something I would do (and don't even get me started about my OCD tendencies). I agree with Karina; it's up to him now.

Mandy · Kate Spade

oh my god, i love you blubird. im so glad to see that im not alone in being neurotic. i was totally thinking you should ask him out till i read esquiress's post and now i have changed my mind and think maybe you should wait on him.

girls are so complex. can you imagine a guy sitting around making charts and plotting his next move? i don't think they are capable of that level of brain activity.

blubirde · Chanel

I'm not going to ask him out I think. It's like Esquiress said, the ball is in his court since he canceled and all last time.

I was beginning to get worried that I didn't hear from him yesterday but I reevaluated my data and realized he's only emailed on one Monday out of 7, so the odds are he'll pick up communication again today. We'll see.

I'm glad to see I'm not totally crazy. And if you think about it, maybe using mathematical equations and statistics to predict behavior isn't the weirdest thing ever. Maybe it's completely and totally logical. hmmm.... or it could be crazy hiding out in disguise.

poptart · Coach

This is hilarious! I almost made you an excel chart showing rate of return on emails.

I agree with Esquiress and with your decision. Let him ask you out again. If he doesn't, we will all scowl with you for a day and mutter "bastard" under our breath (breaths?) in a show of solidarity.

Lilykind · Hermes

Oh my gosh...blubirdie you are so awesome!

That said, I agree with esquiress...wait for him. Did you make a graph showing which days he chooses to communicate the most? We'd love to know the data for that one...otherwise we can't tell if he's going to email today or another day this week.

sfcaligirl · Dooney & Bourke

hmmmm, okay, maybe you should wait this out for a little longer... i wasn't taking into account your other posts about him flaking on you. but, you did say that between may 11th and june 17th, he asked you out 8 times out of 34 emails (23.5% ). did you say no or maybe all 8 times? if so, it's no wonder that he's asking you out less- he probably needs a little encouragement on your part!

i would maybe wait a little longer on him, but make it clear that you're interested. maybe don't go so far as to ask him out on a real date yet... who knows, maybe he's thinking/analyzing this as much as you are! good luck, chickie...

gingembre1 · Kate Spade

I obsess too, when it's in the first stages and I'm trying to figure out what the guy is feeling. ARGH! Lately, I've come to the conclusion that boys are just way too hard to read. I'm trying to stop my obsessive behavior. Thank goodness math is not my forte, or I'd probably be busting out the statistics too.

domkfox · BCBG

OMG! You are f-ing insane, but HILARIOUS. :)

I'm dying here. Seriously.

blubirde · Chanel

sfcaligirl wrote:

hmmmm, okay, maybe you should wait this out for a little longer... i wasn't taking into account your other posts about him flaking on you. but, you did say that between may 11th and june 17th, he asked you out 8 times out of 34 emails (23.5% ). did you say no or maybe all 8 times? if so, it's no wonder that he's asking you out less- he probably needs a little encouragement on your part! i would maybe wait a little longer on him, but make it clear that you're interested. maybe don't go so far as to ask him out on a real date yet... who knows, maybe he's thinking/analyzing this as much as you are! good luck, chickie...

Out of the 8 times he asked me out, I said no 7 times and yes 1 time. However I canceled the 1 I said yes to, which is why his cancellation, as much as it sucked, was due karma. But, in my defense, I hadn't met him in person when I said no all those times and canceled. It's not a good defense but there it is.

I'm working on a chart now...

laken1 · Hermes

blubirdie - I noticed in the "good books" thread in the general chat section that you picked up Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. After reading your post this parallel was the VERY FIRST THING I THOUGHT OF!!!!!! When I finished reading that book, I told my DH that I couldn't figure out if the guy was a complete genius or a nut job (he said very possibly both). I thought the same thing after reading you post - I was literally laughing out loud & snorting at your analysis - I say this with all respect because it's so something I would do. anyway, I wanted to let you know that I think you are a genius / nut just like Douglas Adams (compliment). You need to read that book ASAP, you are going to love it. I feel so much better about my OCD after reading something like this - my DH always tells me "if it were just you, there wouldn't be a name for it".

I hope your situation works out, but I had to comment - you are so funny!!! Thanks for the grins & laughs. AFTER THE "NICENESS" REMINDER, KNOW THAT I MEAN THIS WITH UTMOST HUMOR & RESPECT

-- Edited by laken1 at 16:23, 2005-06-28

-- Edited by laken1 at 16:24, 2005-06-28

-- Edited by laken1 at 16:41, 2005-06-28

blubirde · Chanel

laken1 wrote:

blubirdie - I noticed in the "good books" thread in the general chat section that you picked up Hitchhiker's Guide to the Galaxy. After reading your post this parallel was the VERY FIRST THING I THOUGHT OF!!!!!! When I finished reading that book, I told my DH that I couldn't figure out if the guy was a complete genius or a nut job (he said very possibly both). I thought the same thing after reading you post - I was literally laughing out loud & snorting at your analysis - I say this with all respect because it's so something I would do. anyway, I wanted to let you know that I think you are a genius / nut just like Douglas Adams (compliment). You need to read that book ASAP, you are going to love it. I feel so much better about my OCD after reading something like this - my DH always tells me "if it were just you, there wouldn't be a name for it". I hope your situation works out, but I had to comment - you are so funny!!! Thanks for the grins & laughs. AFTER THE "NICENESS" REMINDER, KNOW THAT I MEAN THIS WITH UTMOST HUMOR & RESPECT -- Edited by laken1 at 16:23, 2005-06-28-- Edited by laken1 at 16:24, 2005-06-28-- Edited by laken1 at 16:41, 2005-06-28

Oh, of course! I would never think you meant anything bad at all! And I'm terribly complimented that you have compared me to Douglas Adams. I might write it down in my compliment book. Wait. I don't keep one of those...

And he's emailed once today (makes the after meeting percentage 90.9% now) but still no date. Tomorrow's Wednesday. He better hurry the hell up. I'm getting other offers right and left!