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ILoveChoo


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or had a super small wedding? Part of me kind of wants to do this because I have about a million relatives that I feel like I "have" to invite, and well...that gets really expensive. But then the other part of me feels like I will regret it later. I also think it will be horribly boring to invite everyone because NO ONE dances, talkes, or moved their butt once they sit down. I am seriously afraid that it will just be a bunch of table full of people sitting there, looking bored, and not talking to other tables.


 


**update**


OK, so I just got back from a two hour lunch break (oops...) where we both just got everything out- what was important to us and what isn't and what we want to do. We came up with what we both feel is a great solution (compromise, if you must, even though both of us LOVE the idea.) We are doing a very small wedding, somewhere cool- probably Hawaii- with just our Parents. Then, when we come back we are going to have a very informal party at my parents house, just a big fun BBQ type thing with our extended families and friends. Cheap, casual, fun, no stress and all together perfect. I'm gonna start looking at wedding packages now!!



-- Edited by ILoveChoo at 12:55, 2005-06-30

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You don't HAVE to have a big wedding if you don't want to or if you don't think it reflects your lifestyle/choices/family.  Have you considered eloping and then having a reception at a later date?

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LMonet wrote:

You don't HAVE to have a big wedding if you don't want to
see, thats where I think I have the problem. Even with just our immediate families- grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins - we're pushing almost 100...(damn Catholics). Doing a reception later on really makes no sense to me either and will seriously piss off a lot of people (ie. my grandparents)

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we have thought of eloping and not telling anyone just for insurance reasons but I keep pulling a veto on the idea. If we did do it we would get married on the same day as our wedding is planned and seriously not tell anyone

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nyc_shopgirl wrote:

If we did do it we would get married on the same day as our wedding is planned and seriously not tell anyone
Actually I really want to elope also and just not tell anyone.  My family and his would absolutely die (really religious Catholics here) and we would never hear the end of it.  I am really thinking about just running off to the beach one weekend a few months before the wedding and tying the knot and just not telling anyone.  That way I can have it my way and make everyone else happy too.  I know everyone says its your wedding do as you want but its not really in my opinion and I would feel selfish for doing it one way or the other and not both.

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my husband and i had a jop wedding, with just our immediate families present and went to a nice poshy restaurant for dinner.

initially i was planning a small wedding (50 people) but my mom is absolutely nuts and started driving me crazy so i decided i didn't want another year of that. i'm sososososo happy we didn't have a wedding. it was inexpensive (less than 1000$) and it was a nice time.

i didn't wear white, either.

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I sort of eloped.  My DH and I got married on a trip to Hawaii.  However, our families and close friends knew that we were going to do it.


It was so amazing and I am constantly glad that I didn't have a big wedding.  It was beautiful and extremely personal, something I wanted to share w/ my husband and no one else.  I love my family, but it isn't something I felt that I needed to have them watch.  It was between me and my husband alone, and that made it really special for us.


I've been to many weddings over the last decade and I totally think that the best ones were the small (30 or less) ones.  I also think a big wedding is a waste of money.  That's just my opinion tho, and I know many girls think it is a worthwhile investment.


My family (catholic too) was supportive of our decision.  I thought they would be a bit dissappointed, but they totally pulled the ol' "whatever makes you happy" and I think it was sincere.


We did have an "open house" type celebration about three weeks after we returned.  My best friend and sister even through a post wedding bridal shower for me as did my coworkers.



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thanks everyone! we spent a good part of the weekend think about this and I think we're going to do a jop wedding (watch them all tell me I'm going to hell for this one...) and then maybe a dinner cruise with just immediate family and grandparents. Something more relaxed, but still something.

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JOP sounds fantastic.  Do it, dont worry about what everyone thinks. They will all get over it. If they are that religious than they will forgive you (or atleast they should) for not having a church wedding.  Overly religious people forget that "God" is everywhere not just in a church.


We did a small wedding but i really wanted to elope. Our wedding was not stressful in the least (because it was small and more of a cocktail party with a few tables randomly placed) but i would rather have the extra money than be paying on the "event" each month.


Just my opinion



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