well, when i told butthead what i had found, he felt really shitty. he said some stupid guy things like "i can't believe you snooped" and "that letter wasn't meant for you to read" ( really?? i thought it was just for me?!? ) but he didn't have much to say about it, but he was sorry and he also said that he lied to her...
but we are broken up, and i have talked to him a few times since then ( maybe 3? ) but all in all, it's done.
i do miss him, because butthead was a great BF. the only times i posted here about him, were when he did stupid things, so i feel as if some of you girls got a bad impression of butthead. he is a good guy, but this is a great place to blow off steam about your BF's... you guys are supportive, but in a different way than my friends that i SEE :)
i'm pretty busy with work and stuff, and i've been working out more since i have single girl time, so that's a plus.
so not much exciting news, but i have moved on.
thanks karina for asking and your concern
-- Edited by tara t at 09:45, 2005-04-21
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I feel sorry for people who don't drink. When they wake up in the morning, that's as good as they're going to feel all day. -Frank Sinatra
Well, I am happy that you feel good about your decision. Noone can tell you what to think, or what you should do for that matter. Missing him is completely normal, but from the sound of the situation- you are better off. Good for you that you're working out more & have time for yourself. You'll end up thanking yourself even more later even though Im sure this was a hard decision. We're here for you :)
Even though I only "know" you from this forum, I'm so proud of you for making this tough decision. It's hard to walk away from a special person, and I know it probably doesn't necessarily help (right now) to hear that you did the right thing, but time has a way of working these things out and helping us see them more clearly.
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Forget, forgive, conclude, and be agreed. - Shakespeare
I know what you mean about only bitching about a boy when he does crappy things. I try not to fall into that trap just so my friends won't have a negative opinion of whatever guy I'm talking about.
But, to be honest, my friends are usually right. They can see through the stuff I say and realize if a guy is good or not, whether or not I can see it at the time. (I actually have friends sticking up for guys most of the time!) So not everyone automatically thinks bad behavior = bad guy. Just so ya know!
That said, I'm sooo happy you are strong and feeling good about your decision. Be sure to talk about your feelings, because you went through some pretty traumatic stuff (whether or not you know it yet). I hope you feel better and are happier soon.