In the past year I have really upped my style quotient-so to speak. I have spent more on clothes because I have had more to spend. I have learned alot from this website and fashion magazines. I have been wearing blazers, sweaters, pretty skirts, tops, etc. One of my favorite looks is to wear a cami peeking out from a blazer or a cardi (nothing at all teeny bopper) I have gotten lots of compliments on how good it looks.
Well, I have a co-worker (we will call her cw #1) who has always been very nice and she has paid me some of the compliments. Well, yesterday another co-worker of mine (we will call her cw #2) who I had not seen in awhile (she is in another building) stopped by to say hello. Well, cw #1 was in the room next to my office and heard us talking. She came to my office door to take part in the conversation. IN the process of the conversation cw#1 commented on my pretty outfit. I had on a white baby doll cami that was peeking out from an orange/white striped blazer (Old Navy) and a pair of charcoal Correspondents with a pair of pewter colored peeptoes. She said that I "had been dressing young lately". cw#2 glared at her and said about me "well, she is young" cw #1 said that when she say my clothing it made her think that her daughter would look cute in it --she is a high schooler. I will be 35 in August but I have been told by several people who had nothing to gain by flattering me that I look about 23 or 24. Now, I don't think I look that young, but I did not know what to make of cw #1's comments. They have been really irritating me.
It is sad that people resort to passive-agressive belittlement (is that a word?) like that. I am sure that she is jealous of your youth and how great you look. Either that or she really would like her daughter to dress like a sophisticated young adult, which could be the case. OR maybe she just really likes your style, would like to have it herself but thinks she is too old, so she thinks the next best thing is for her daughter to dress like you?
I don't know. I'd probably be irritated too, but if this is the only time she's made a comment like that, I would give her the benefit of the doubt. If it's a pattern, I'd just play the game and act sincerely flattered when she gives backhanded compliments. Just don't give her the power of affecting you (I have a really hard time with letting people get to me, so this is my new mantra).
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She's just bitter and jealous. Seriously. Don't give it another thought. Woman always have to deal with jealous and petty woman in their spheres. It sucks that we belittle each other like that, but we're our own worst enemy.
You sound great and completely age-appropriate. Let her talk - she's a fool. I bet she looks like ass, too.
Btw, I dressed my mom up (50+) in clothes I would wear (26) and when she went to work everyone told her how young and fabulous she looked. Consider it a compliment!! I'd be pissed if someone told me I looked old and fuddy-duddy, not young and hot!
quote: Originally posted by: blubirde "She's just bitter and jealous. Seriously. Don't give it another thought. Woman always have to deal with jealous and petty woman in their spheres. It sucks that we belittle each other like that, but we're our own worst enemy.
You sound great and completely age-appropriate. Let her talk - she's a fool. I bet she looks like ass, too.
Btw, I dressed my mom up (50+) in clothes I would wear (26) and when she went to work everyone told her how young and fabulous she looked. Consider it a compliment!! I'd be pissed if someone told me I looked old and fuddy-duddy, not young and hot! "
I TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!!!
Hold your head up high, sweetie!!! You know you're hot !!!!!!
I have to agree with the girls- she sound jealous. This women is just jealous that she doesn't have your fashion sense.
I think many times when women are not overweight and dress well people always look at them and think they are younger than they are. My mom is 53 and is in very good shape and dresses very well. People never believe that she is 53.
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I don’t want no part of your tight-ass country-club, you freak bitch!
Meow, we are about the same age & I have seen the types of things you are posted. I always feel like in our age group it is hard to tell what is "age appropriate" - it seems like you have to shop in the juniors dept or the misses dept - and we are neither. I make a concerted effort, and I feel like you do too, not to dress in something that is inappropriate. By "young" I wonder if this woman is thinking the same way, you aren't wearing clothes that are marketed to our mothers, thank goodness! I say screw her!!!!! LOL You keep up your "fashionable" self & don't worry about what she says, there will always be nay sayers.
On the same wavelength, I moved to Dallas about a year ago & things come out here sooner than in my hometown in Louisiana. And with the board I feel like I'm ahead of the curve too. My sister has been making similar stabs about things I wear, and I know exactly how you feel. She called my metallic purse my "gold lame hooker purse" - things like that. I really just want to tell her to pick up a fashion magazine. As much as I wish it didn't bother me, it does. But what I keep reminding myself is to look at what that person has on & ask yourself, do you like their style? Would you want to wear their outfit? If not, you have to let it slide. That's what I'm doing anyway!!!
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