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DC Shopper · Dooney & Bourke

wedding gifts - is it weird...

doveanunu · Dooney & Bourke

Don't know but I am sort of in the same boat. My engagment party is in a week and nada. Now, i don't expect gifts from most people but it is tradition on my mom's side of the family to give engagment gifts.....my uncle even asked me to register so he could pick something! I keep peeking at my registry and nothing has been purchased.

Elle · Hermes

Are you saying that nothing is gone from your registry on top of you not having received anything?

In some circles, it is becoming less acceptable to bring a gift to the actual wedding - 'modern etiquette' is starting to turn toward sending the gift ahead so as not to burden the couple on their big day with carloads of gifts, especially since people are much more spread around the country than they once were. However, it's by no means common practice now and many people (especially older folk) are not comfortable sending things ahead in the mail or using the internet to order your gift. I wouldn't worry - heck you might end up with fistfulls of money instead!

DC Shopper · Dooney & Bourke

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Originally posted by: LMonet
"Are you saying that nothing is gone from your registry on top of you not having received anything? In some circles, it is becoming less acceptable to bring a gift to the actual wedding - 'modern etiquette' is starting to turn toward sending the gift ahead so as not to burden the couple on their big day with carloads of gifts, especially since people are much more spread around the country than they once were. However, it's by no means common practice now and many people (especially older folk) are not comfortable sending things ahead in the mail or using the internet to order your gift. I wouldn't worry - heck you might end up with fistfulls of money instead!"

we've gotten one gift from the registry and there is one other gift gone from the registry that hasn't arrived yet, but other than some bridal shower gifts I already received, everything is still there! You have a point about the older guests, though...some might not be internet savvy or whatever. Also FH's family is Ukrainian-American. I have no idea if that has some bearing on gift-giving traditions, but it could be part of it. It could also explain the addition of uninvited guests to the response cards. I know I should not be sweating this and I am like super-gauche for even bringing it up.

hey doveannu, a lot of people will probably bring gifts to the engagement party, although technically one is not obligated to give an engagement gift (unless as you say, it's a tradition in your family.) I bet people don't even know you're registered.

bex · Chanel

has your friend had her shower yet? her registry may have been wiped out due to that and she didn't go back and choose other items. a lot of the weddings i have bought gifts for lately have literally had their registrys wiped out during the shower gift giving. and then they had to go back and register for more! isn't that crazy?

i wouldn't sweat it too much. a lot of people are procrastinators!