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Elle · Hermes

But I don't want to work! (or, FH leaves on Sat)

Chic · Marc Jacobs

RE: But I don't want to work! (or, FH leaves on Sa

Tati · Chanel

do you have kids?
If not, take some time off work 2-3 days and go somewhere with a couple of girlfriends or just hang around the house doing nothing.

bliss · Dooney & Bourke

RE: But I don't want to work! (or, FH leaves on Sat)

Andrea Julia · Coach

quote:
Originally posted by: bliss
"When you say SIMS do you mean The Sims video game? That game and the enthusiasts crack me up."

I love the Sims, but I got WAY too addicted to it for a while. Actually, I think I got a new copy with my computer and you just reminded me about it. I should play...

You should definitely take a few days off and make a SIMS person of your FH if you haven't already and you can just pretend he is around.

ShanKel · Kenneth Cole

Will you be going to visit before you move there with him?

I know you're bummed about him leaving but just think about how happy you'll be when you see him again. You're gonna be soooo excited. Absence really does make the heart grow fonder

-- Edited by ShanKel at 02:37, 2005-03-24

bliss · Dooney & Bourke

quote:
Originally posted by: Andrea Julia
" I love the Sims, but I got WAY too addicted to it for a while. Actually, I think I got a new copy with my computer and you just reminded me about it. I should play... You should definitely take a few days off and make a SIMS person of your FH if you haven't already and you can just pretend he is around."

I have the Sims 2. The game is painfully addicting. I spend half my day just building houses. I have a computer geek friend who is a little antisocial but a real sweetheart and when he picks up his home phone he says "comens nala?" lol. I fall out laughing at him.

Anyway, it's true you can make a Sim out of your FH, just try not to set him on fire and make sure he makes it to the bathroom on time.

Elle · Hermes

I looooove SIMS2 and find it terribly addicting as well . I find it very interesting it can turn most normal people into obsessive anti-social computer geeks .

Chic - It's for the last term of his school program, kind of like an unpaid internship. His first day 'working' is April 4th and his last day is June 10th. Technically I guess that's only a little over 2 months, but with driving time it's almost an extra 2 weeks.

Shankel - No I won't be able to visit him. A plane ticket from Spokane to Texas is almost $400 and I can't afford to take any time off work (technically I'll be supporting two households b/c he has to work for free). I would drive but it's 3 days each way at least.

My boss offered to let me have tomorrow off, so I think I'm going to go ahead and do that. Then we can spend a whole day together before he has to go and I can spend the entire weekend vegetating. Thanks for listening to me whine .

blubirde · Chanel

Once my bf (at the time) left for an archeaological dig for 6 weeks and I went through a serious depression. I was afraid to leave the house for fear of missing a call from him. I skipped all my classes those few weeks and laid in bed the entire time I wasn't working. I was seriously the biggest mess I'd ever been. (The depression wasn't just about him - it was about a lot of things but him leaving just triggered the meltdown.)

Anyway, I recommend hanging out with girlfriends, taking that dancing or painting class you've always wanted to, and your three months will fly by. Whatever you do, don't stay cooped up in your house. It isn't healthy and you'll feel a lot better if you keep doing things you would normally do. Think how cool it would be for him to come home to some fabulous paintings you made? Or to a sewn quilt or a new dress you made by hand?

Good luck and feel free to whine all you want!

valenciana · Dooney & Bourke

LMonet...my fiance was gone all last summer, doing summer associateships at two law firms (one in Houston, heh). He was gone for something like 11 weeks. So I can definitely relate if you need someone who's gone through it.

In the end, I actually enjoyed my time. Don't get me wrong, I love FI and I love spending time with him. But since we live together, I really never have "me time" because he's always around, being a student and all. At first I moped. He left on a Saturday morning and I pretty much spent the entire weekend moping around the house. I didn't even feel like watching TV or going shopping or anything. But then I started to like having time to do whatever I wanted, without having to worry about anyone. I could go out shopping on a Saturday, and not come back until late, and not have anyone wondering where I was. I sometimes ate snacks for dinner, standing up in the kitchen, just eating this and that, whatever I felt like. And I spent a lot of time doing silly pampering stuff that my fiance doesn't like (cause you know, beauty products are "stinky") to make myself feel better and take advantage of the time.

I didn't do all the great productive things I thought I would over the summer. I never took the dance class I meant to, and I sort of wish I had. But I did read a lot of books, and I cleaned out our apartment. And yeah, spent a lot of time on the computer. I actually kind of forgot about the Sims...damn it. But it was really okay. The time went by and before I knew it, he was coming home. And actually, I think the time apart was good for us. We talked on the phone a lot, but it gave us a chance to step back from our relationship and really see how great it was. And there's always sweet, romantic letters and cards and that kind of thing that never happens when you live in the same place.

Hang in there. And totally let yourself pout if you need to. It'll be over before you know it, and you'll appreciate each other in a whole new way!

Escrime · Kate Spade

I can totally empathize. I know that dread that you feel and how much you will miss him.

The first week is always the hardest, but then it will get easier, trust me!

Just get on with your day to day activity, and like has been mentioned, maybe start a new hobby or class or project, have friends over for meals more often, set a goal while he is gone and try to get it done before he comes back, put your extra time to something that will keep you busy and your mind occupied.

Since it seems he will be on a set schedule, you guys might want to set a specific time to talk to each other on the phone. There's also e-mails, instant messenger, and webcams, if you guys have that. It really does help.

It can be hard, but you know what the best part is?

Homecoming!!

and of course, you always have us to vent to.

He'll be back before you know it.

Elle · Hermes

Thanks girls - you made me feel alot better .

Valenciana - EXACTLY!!! I was completely useless the entire day on Saturday - I couldn't concentrate on anything and was totally restless. I just let myself mope, ate a ton of ice cream, didn't get out of my pajamas, etc. I felt alot better on Sunday, and even went shopping, painted my nails, and had a decent dinner.

I think the plan is that I'm going to try to lose the 10 lbs I've gained in the last two years while he's gone. Now that I don't have to worry about making dinner and stuff, I can go to the gym everyday after work without feeling guilty for not spending time with FH.

Now that the mopiness has mostly passed, I'm excited b/c this is the home stretch! As soon as FH gets back, I get to quit my job and we get to move from this hellhole! Hmmm, I need to count the days so I can have fun crossing them off!

PS - I am also really enjoying being able to be in the kitchen and living room in pajamas sporting crazy bed-head, which I was not able to do when our roommate was around for fear of sending him running for the hills. Maybe this will be fun afterall . . .

lsubatgirl · Gucci

I'm glad you are doing better Leah. I've been moping around and crying the past few days over the whole job situation. I just don't know what to do. I'm so afraid I'm going to be like you were this weekend if I move over there. Ugh. maybe I'll get over it and be fine. Will probably have to pm you later.

blubirde · Chanel

quote:
Originally posted by: LMonet
"Thanks girls - you made me feel alot better . Valenciana - EXACTLY!!! I was completely useless the entire day on Saturday - I couldn't concentrate on anything and was totally restless. I just let myself mope, ate a ton of ice cream, didn't get out of my pajamas, etc. I felt alot better on Sunday, and even went shopping, painted my nails, and had a decent dinner. I think the plan is that I'm going to try to lose the 10 lbs I've gained in the last two years while he's gone. Now that I don't have to worry about making dinner and stuff, I can go to the gym everyday after work without feeling guilty for not spending time with FH. Now that the mopiness has mostly passed, I'm excited b/c this is the home stretch! As soon as FH gets back, I get to quit my job and we get to move from this hellhole! Hmmm, I need to count the days so I can have fun crossing them off! PS - I am also really enjoying being able to be in the kitchen and living room in pajamas sporting crazy bed-head, which I was not able to do when our roommate was around for fear of sending him running for the hills. Maybe this will be fun afterall . . . "

Yay! I'm happy to hear you're doing well (or at least you're not doing terribly, right?). I'll think about you when I'm running this evening and send you good workout vibes!