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Sunshinegirl · Kate Spade

need assistance w/wording

Elle · Hermes

It is my understanding that you should never put 'no children' on anything. Usually when addressing invitations you put formal name/address on the outer envelope and then the specific (first) names of exactly who is included in the invite on the inner envelope. If when you get your RSVP cards back, someone has included their children in the count of people who will attend, a polite call is in order to let them know that while you love their children, the reception is more of an adult affair.

This is kind of a whole other bag of chips, but if you wanted to provide daycare during your event, you could include this information on the accomodations/directions/etc card, something like:

For your convenience, on-site (or off-site) daycare will be provided from <time> to <time> for children under the age of <insert appropriate age here> at <such and such location>.

This makes it pretty clear that your event is 'adults only' without having to come out and say it.

As for the wording regarding the timing of things, am I correct that you are having a cocktail hour and ceremony at one location and then the reception and toast at another?

-- Edited by LMonet at 14:13, 2005-03-17

Sunshinegirl · Kate Spade

lmonet,

1st) not springing for a babysitter but thanks for the information.

The wedding and reception will be held at the same location. We wanted to give everyone a good 45 minutes to get there and meet/greet with friends and family before ceremony begins.

Once the ceremony has concluded (those interested) can walk down to the beach for a champagne/sunset toast. Follow this with back to the venue for reception.

I guess i should just include the cocktail hour and "reception to follow" line and then directions on the insert. I guess i was questioning too what wording to include for the kind of reception that it is.

Any additional feedback would be helpful.

Thanks

smash · Dooney & Bourke

ok, here are some thoughts...

first, i would just make a note on the directions sheet that there will be cocktails before the ceremony for those interested. i would only include the ceremony time/info on the invite itself.

i think something like this would work for your invite -

sunshinegirl & mr. sunshinegirl

together with their families

request the pleasure of your company

at the celebration of their marriage

saturday the xx of may

two-thousand and five

at seven o'clock in the evening

location

adult reception immediately following

i think something like that for the invite will cover the major bases and relays that you want the reception to be just for adults in the most tactful way possible.

hope that helps a bit

Sunshinegirl · Kate Spade

ahh yes,

Well said Smash. It's simple and to the point.

Thanks for the suggestion.

JoceyBaby23 · Gucci

quote:
Originally posted by: smash
"ok, here are some thoughts... first, i would just make a note on the directions sheet that there will be cocktails before the ceremony for those interested. i would only include the ceremony time/info on the invite itself. i think something like this would work for your invite - sunshinegirl & mr. sunshinegirl together with their families request the pleasure of your company at the celebration of their marriage saturday the xx of may two-thousand and five at seven o'clock in the evening location adult reception immediately following i think something like that for the invite will cover the major bases and relays that you want the reception to be just for adults in the most tactful way possible. hope that helps a bit "

Smash said it perfectly.

lsubatgirl · Gucci

"adult reception immediately following"

I see this line all the time on the invitation and think it gets the point across nicely. I would go with that.

Luv2Shop · Kate Spade

I agree: adult reception immediatly following is what I put and there were no questions asked.
Also, I think it is a good idea to put the time of the toast because you want everyone to be there for it and not wandering around and missing it.
Have fun!