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Grace · BCBG

Meeting Guys

joy0302 · Kate Spade

I am married now, but you can meets guys many ways. I think a good place to start is by figuring out what type of guy you want and what is important to you. For example, if you are a certain religion and you want someone with the same beliefs, try to find someone at church. If you need to meet new people maybe open yourself up to new things. Take a class at the local college or hang out at sporting events, concerts, etc.

The most important thing, though, when meeting new guys I would say is to have confidence. If you are confident you will attract more people in my opinion. I know that may sound cliche', but I really think that is the best way to meet someone.

Suasoria · Chanel

Statistically speaking, school/work are the places most couples meet. What kind of work do you do? If not eligible coworkers, there are vendors/suppliers, customers/clients, business partners at other companies, offices in in the same building, UPS drivers - the universe is fairly large of people you can meet through work-related activities and networking.

Grace · BCBG

Ok, maybe this is where I'm going wrong but I feel like work would be the LAST place I would want to meet someone. If it didn't work out, I would not want to deal with that person on a (possibly) daily basis.

Kelly · Hermes

Grace wrote:

Ok, maybe this is where I'm going wrong but I feel like work would be the LAST place I would want to meet someone. If it didn't work out, I would not want to deal with that person on a (possibly) daily basis.

I would just like to repeat this because uh, I'm dating a coworker right now and I've been unhappy in our relationship lately to the point where I think I want to end the relationship, and I'm so afraid of going to work after a big breakup. When we started dating we thought it was a good idea, and swore up and down that we would be cool as cucumbers in the office if things ever ended, but the closer things get to ending, the harder I think that's going to be. Of course, this is a guy who works in the same office as me (like, 15 feet away) and we work on projects together. If your company is big enough, you could date someone in another department and if you break up, you'll barely ever see him again.

But the most common way I've met guys in the past was just through friends. People would invite me along to a party or whatever and I'd meet new people. And my girl friends made a special point to invite me to parties full of people I didn't know when they knew I was single and looking wink

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

ttara123 wrote:

Grace wrote:

Ok, maybe this is where I'm going wrong but I feel like work would be the LAST place I would want to meet someone. If it didn't work out, I would not want to deal with that person on a (possibly) daily basis.

I would just like to repeat this because uh, I'm dating a coworker right now and I've been unhappy in our relationship lately to the point where I think I want to end the relationship, and I'm so afraid of going to work after a big breakup. When we started dating we thought it was a good idea, and swore up and down that we would be cool as cucumbers in the office if things ever ended, but the closer things get to ending, the harder I think that's going to be. Of course, this is a guy who works in the same office as me (like, 15 feet away) and we work on projects together. If your company is big enough, you could date someone in another department and if you break up, you'll barely ever see him again.
But the most common way I've met guys in the past was just through friends. People would invite me along to a party or whatever and I'd meet new people. And my girl friends made a special point to invite me to parties full of people I didn't know when they knew I was single and looking

i think workplace romances are a risk, sure. but then again, romances in general are a risk aren't they? and breakups are a b*tch no matter what, no?

I wrote an article ages ago on the subject, let me see if I can still find it (and if i still agree with what i wrote)...

ETA: here it is! http://www.stylethread.com/columns/Feb06_columns/relationships_feb06.html

Good grief this was such a long time ago, I pretty much still agree with what I wrote except for using "whose" instead of "who's"--tsk, tsk.

I so have to write an epilogue to this article, it totally got me thinking...

-- Edited by esquiress at 01:07, 2008-08-25