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Irene


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My former boss sort of invited herself to our wedding. I didn't mind at the time becauseI thought she was cool and I figured she would give us a nice present. (yes, wrong reason to invite someone, but whatever).

So now she is not my boss anymore, although she acts like she still is. Eventually I will not be doing work for her anymore.

Since she has been promoted, she's been to "busy" to talk to me. She hasn't given me my review yet (which she was suppsed to do in December. And now she is mad because I messed up one of her car service arrangements. (totally my fault, but what ya gonna do, I can't turn back time). I feel as if we don't have that connection we used to have. She doesn't ask me how I am doing or anything anymore. It's as if as soon as she knew she was getting promoted, she abandoned the team. BTW-I have heard my colleagues stating similar things too, so I know it's not just me.

Anyway, I don't want to invite her to my wedding anymore. What should I do, just not send her invite? Should I let her know beforehand that she isn't getting one? Should I invite her anyway? I don't know what to do.

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Elle


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Have you spoken with her about the wedding alot?  Have you told her that she would be invited or acknowledged her self-invitation?

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Tati


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I would still invite her and hope she does not go. If she does go, hopefully she buys you a really nice present or lots of cash
Don't un-invite her, if she finds out you had your wedding and she wasn't invited afterall, it just might create some issues.
I know she's annoying the heck out of you but try and be the good one, and pray she dosen't show up
Just my opinion.....

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e_doli


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hmmm, i know you said that you won't be doing work for her anymore, but will she have any control over your work life at all?  cause if so (and if the issue is purely that you don't like her anymore and not about $$), i would say still invite her to avoid any repercussions or uncomfortable situations at work.


otherwise, i would just not send her an invite.  i think actually telling her that she's not invited will be more insulting than not inviting her.  if she's kind of out of your life at work then there's no reason to feel obligated to invite her.


i guess this all depends on what was said by the two of you regarding the wedding and if you have talked about it recently or not ... also, are many other collegues invited that may talk about it at work? 



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Irene


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After talking to a bunch of peolpe, I have decided not to invite her. I really didn't want anyone from my job to attend the wedding. If she asks wh she wasn't invited, I will just tell her that we forgot some family members and had to adjust the guestlist.That's all.

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e_doli


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that's perfect.  it's great that you are doing what you want to do and being pressured by people. 

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She will definitely notice that she isn't invited.  But even if she doesn't mention it to you, get to her first and let her know, like you planned, that you were unable to invite ANY co-workers because you needed to adjust the list for more family members.

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