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Kel · Coach

Different Roommate Customs

crystal · Kate Spade

ur not the maid! make ur own food and tell her/ leave her a note that you don't mind making extra of your own food (if that's true) but you think it is more appropriate if you both take turns making food for eachother of your own choosing and not dictate what someone should make for you. good luck, i'm not too great w/ roomates actually which is why i live alone!

Elle · Hermes

I think she is taking your 'system' a step too far. It is one thing for you to cook for her when you are also cooking for yourself, it is an entirely different level if she is expecting you to cook for her when she's not even there. I would let her know that if you are already cooking you'd be happy to make extra for her, but if you have plans/she's not there she is either welcome to eat any leftovers you may have or cook something for herself. Anytime you cook for her she should consider it a favor and a privelege, if she is already assuming/expecting that you'll cook for her set her straight now or it's going to get ugly really fast!

Kel · Coach

Okay good i am not crazy, that is the way it came across to you guys to. I don't mind making extra food for her at all but I am not cooking what she wants to be cooked, especially if she is not there to eat it with me. I am not going to see her to tonight, so for tonights purposes should i cook it for her or no?

Elle · Hermes

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Originally posted by: Kel
"Okay good i am not crazy, that is the way it came across to you guys to. I don't mind making extra food for her at all but I am not cooking what she wants to be cooked, especially if she is not there to eat it with me. I am not going to see her to tonight, so for tonights purposes should i cook it for her or no?"

Absoloutely not - and if she asks you about it later it would be the perfect time to let her know what the deal is, then you wouldn't have to be the one to bring it up either.

luckylily · Gucci

I say NO WAY! She can take care of herself whenever she gets home.

Ally S · Kate Spade

I certainly wouldn't cook for her and I would leave her a note telling her you need to talk to her about some things.

Now is the perfect time to lay out all the room mate rules, prep yourself for everything you'd want to clear the air over; cooking, cleaning, friends staying over, etc.

If she's been taken care of by her parents she might not have a clue about anything and assume your kindness in helping to learn to cook is your way of taking care of her as they did. Not everyone is mature in these matters, even if they are living on there own.

Setting the record straight about all the expectations of your new living situation will only make things go smoothly later.

bumblebee · Dooney & Bourke

have you been buying all of the food for these cooking "lessons?"

i agree with what the other girls are saying, but just to give your roomie the benefit of the doubt, maybe this was her bumbling way of trying to contribute monetarily, because it can be expensive to keep buying all the food yourself. maybe when you sit down and talk with her about the fact that you are not her mother (which i agree you need to do sooner than later), you could express that you appreciate her trying to contribute and perhaps you can make the meal that she planned and shopped for *together* tomorrow night or the next or whatever.