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My bff is getting married the second weekend of August. Ughh... I am a bridesmaid of a wedding that is quickly becoming a disaster. I need to vent...

The wedding is in 7 weeks and she hasn't sent out her invitations yet. And she won't let anyone help her finish them. I don't know how she is going to pull this off.

I had to pick out my own dress and make my own hair and makeup appointments with my own stylist. The bride and other bridesmaid (just 2 of us) don't care about doing it together or having a spa day before the wedding. I have no idea what the other BM is wearing or anything. I feel super bummed out because I thought being a BM was a good excuse for girl time, spa days and shopping trips. I'm really disappointed and I'm nervous that since we didn't plan our dresses together, we will look like a really motley wedding party.

The worst part is I called the other BM to start planning a shower and she said she already planned it and wouldn't let me contribute at all or discuss the plans with me. She won't call me or return my calls or accept any of my help. She has planned the shower to take place in another town (where she lives) from where the bride and I (and all the guests) live. I offered to use my house or my Mom's house but she won't have it. So all the guests will have to drive to another town 30 to 1 hour away for the shower.

I feel so bad for my bff. And I'm mad about the shower. Is the any way I can salvage this? Does anybody have any ideas?

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Let the shower destination go, I don't know where you live, but if it's just one city over and a 30-60 minute drive, I don't think that's a big deal.  I live in the DFW area and with family and friends that live all over it, I am constantly driving to F.W., Dallas, other suburbs in between and sometimes on the outskirts.

But as for the planning, I can't believe the other BM won't let you contribute!  I wonder why the heck not?  I don't know what you can do, maybe try to do something else, like a girls beauty day, with just you and the bride if the other BM doesn't allow your help.

I know you weren't asking advice, sorry!  I feel ya though!  I would be bummed too.


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I'm with blink here...I think the best thing you can do is plan a special day with the bride...and invite the other bridesmaid along but don't make a big deal if she declines. Additionally you could, if you want to go to the effort, plan to get together and make sure all the dresses and shoe at least don't clash.

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Can you plan the bachlorette party?

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Ugh. That sounds stressful. I agree though with the location thing. That's not a huge deal, as long as it isn't really far from anyone. But planning? That sucks. She should let you help with the plans. Seriously, I keep hearing all of these annoying and/or horrifying wedding stories. Makes me even more adamant about not wanting a wedding.

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