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Farrah · Marc Jacobs

RE: Bridal Showers...continued

Kincali · Dooney & Bourke

Farrah wrote:

Oh, and for the $300 gravy boat crowd, I have known people to actually go in on gifts. When one of my girlfriends got married they registered for a Dyson and 3 couples went in on it for them. I think that is a nice option too. Anyway, just my 2 cents.

I really wish more people would do this. I'm very particular about what I have in my house, 95% of my kitchen items are vintage, from my mixing bowls to my Danish silverware. I hated registering because I know our families, and they want it to be easy for them. Which means it should either come from Macy's or Target, and be in the range of $30-50 because they all want to buy their own gift.

-- Edited by fairlight at 11:28, 2008-07-07

-- Edited by fairlight at 12:01, 2008-07-08

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

Fairlight, do you have any Bed, Bath and Beyond stores where you live? Because that store has about the same price point as Target but lets you RETURN stuff WITHOUT A RECEIPT for CASH. So you could literally register for a bunch of stuff, haul in your loot, and leave the store with cash for all the presents. Voila, problem solved!

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

Oh I forgot to answer the question. Here's what I think it boils down to: No one wants to feel taken advantage of, and if that's the feeling you're getting it doesn't matter if the couple is young and broke or old and rich or whatever, you'll still resent them for it. We can make all kinds of generalizations about showers, age of the couple, their wealth, etc. But the point is, if you feel appreciated, it's all good. If not, they suck.

Examples from the two times when I've actually been in the wedding:

In law school, my friend asked me to be her bridesmaid and I was flattered and super-excited at first because I'd never been a bridesmaid. But then she turned into this total nervous paranoid bridezilla type who ended up firing her MOH and I just kind of avoided the whole ordeal because of the way she was handling it all. And the bridal shower was SUPER far away in the middle of nowhere and I had a final that Monday and the whole thing just felt like such a burden.

But then my other friend in law school also got married and asked me to be a bridesmaid and that wedding was a dream! It was beautiful, there was her pre-engagement party, which was FABULOUS, her engagement party, which was even more fun, her bridal shower was a blast and the wedding itself was to die for. I enjoyed every minute of sharing in that journey with her.

And now that I'm in my third wedding, this time as the MOH, I'm already enjoying the planning and can't wait to give my best friend the best bridal shower ever!

Dizzy · Marc Jacobs

She "fired" her MOH? Whoa. That is hilarious!

esquiress · Marc Jacobs

Dizzy wrote:

She "fired" her MOH? Whoa. That is hilarious!

Omg, if you think THAT'S hilarious--guess the reason why? Because the MOH was apparently in charge of mailing out the bridal shower invitations and said she did them when according to the bride she hadn't done them so the whole "firing" happened when the bride called me at 7am on a Saturday asking me to decipher the POSTMARK DATE on the envelope. I couldn't really tell because the ink was smudged so then the bride kept calling guests trying to figure out the postmark and then she confronted the MOH with the "evidence." Cue to big blowout and the "firing" of the MOH.

Seriously, soooo ridiculous.

Hermione · Kate Spade

ok - WOW - calling people to decipher the postmark? she should be embarassed of her behavior. my goodness.
i used to help plan weddings and loved it, but saw enough stress and drama to decide that if and when i ever got married, it would be a VERY simple, low-key affair, and that I would remind myself whenever problems came up that the main point is, my husband and i would still be married even if the caterers brought fish instead of chicken!